Sexual Abuse Support Group

Sexual abuse is a relative cultural term used to describe sexual relations and behavior between two or more parties which are considered criminally and/or morally offensive. Different types of sexual abuse involve: Non-consensual, forced physical sexual behavior such as rape, incest or sexual assault, or psychological forms of abuse, such as verbal sexual behavior or...

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Reaching_the_stars369 10/14/2016

This is hard for me to do since i have buried this so deep in myself that I havent even thought about dealing with it till recently. I was raped and molested from when i was 6 till i was 13 by my step dad and my mom knew it was happening and did nothing about it. I am at a point in my life that these memories are coming back and they are hindering a lot of my daily life. The hardest part for me to understand is at the age of 6 what did i do to make him do that. When you are 6 you believe in the world and how amazing it is, you see the light and goodness in others that people don't always see. You are innocent. How can someone look at that and do those horrible things to her???

It has been a few years since he was put in prison but like i said, it still affects my day to day life. I just what to know when will it go away??? I just want to get over it and make peace with it because it isnt hurting anybody but myself. He doesnt feel bad, the only thing he every said is that he was sorry for his family who had to find out......SERIOUSLY!! he didnt apologize to his kids that he left behind, to the step-daughter who just wanted a dad, to the step-son who looked up to him for being such a good man.

So any advice i can get at this point will be a great start. Thank you for reading this.

LuckyEmpath 10/14/2016

I am so sorry that this happened to you. I am glad he is now in prison where he belongs. It angers me that your mother knew what was happening and ignored it. It's shameful.

I have found that it is not possible to 'get over it' without working on it. That means working on your healing with a therapist. When we are abused we have many many feelings that go unexpressed. We keep them inside of us because it is not safe to express them. Now, as an adult, you still have all these unexpressed feelings inside of you that want to come out. In therapy you will learn how to express these feelings while in a safe place and while being validated for having them. Healing is in the feelings. Once you allow yourself to feel them you can heal. But please don't try to do this alone. Please find a therapist who specializes if sexual abuse if you can. You can heal and you deserve to heal. You deserve to have a full, happy, wonderful life.

donnawanda 10/14/2016

I'm so sorry this happened. It's unimaginable that someone could hurt such a young child like that - or it should be unimaginable, but sadly, you are not alone. You say "What did I do to make him do that?" and the answer is "Nothing." It was never about you or what you did or didn't do. It was his own disease, his own need to destroy innocence. Why he did it is not even important beyond knowing it wasn't your fault in any way, shape or form. What's important now is YOU and your healing. You have a lot to heal from - not only the terrible crimes of your stepfather, but the abandonment and betrayal by your mother.

I hope you will pursue healing with a qualified therapist. This is a good place to get support along the way. Another place you might want to explore is the website RAINN.org.

2magicman 10/14/2016

I"m very sorry for what you went through. I was abducted from a campground by a total stranger and sexualy abused and the most terifying experience i have ever been through. All my family knew that i was lost somewhere out there in the middle of nowhere. ( TW ) They never knew what was happening to there son, nor brother. At my age what they did not know wouldn't hurt them but would in time to come to haunt me because i buried everything away from family. I found it does not work. You can't push it, and push it, it come back with avengence. Enough of me. You can't do it alone but you are not alone we are all with you. Like above explore RAINN.org. There is a person there to talk to 24 -7

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indianvisa 10/15/2016

who would forget 7 years of torture, normally they would loose their mind, but you are still sane, you can never forget about it, a simple word like move on wouldn't do anything. it takes some time, mostly years, some can't even have a normal sex life with their husband because of it, so hang in their and move out of that place before he returns

Reaching_the_stars369 10/17/2016

Thank you guys so much, it means the world to me that there are people out there that understand this and can relate to it. It seems so small yet it is so big to have people talk to.

whales86 10/22/2016

Hi. Sorry you went through this. I went through very similar situation with my bio parents. I'm hopefully starting the healing process the right way for me this time to get past this stuff. But one thing I do know for sure. It in no way shape or form was this your fault. He was the sick Bastard.

As others mentioned find someone specialized in sexual abuse to help you through the process. When you looking make sure to do research in the provider and how they classify them selves as a specialist. Just food for thought learned the hard way

Pag.mars 10/30/2016

It's understandable that you'd feel that way. No, you did not deserve any of that. No six year old does. I hope you are able to find a way to heal and to move forward. We're all here for you. <3 *hugs*

Addybrown92 11/12/2016

Hey hub I am sorry you had to go through that I know how you are felling I went through then same thing but with my real dad it went on for a few years and it is hard I went to talk to people and one person said to me as hard it is to do you have to forgive this person who did this to you as bad as you don't want to that is the first step on moving on with your life I did it and it was the hardest thing I had to do now I am 24 with two daughters I have to take care of I am sorry you had to go through this I was 8 Year old when it happened and I am 24 and when I think about what I went through as bad as it said went you went through made you this young beautiful person and you will be something and someone that this won't take over your life just know this was not your fault

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