Sexual Abuse Support Group
Sexual abuse is a relative cultural term used to describe sexual relations and behavior between two or more parties which are considered criminally and/or morally offensive. Different types of sexual abuse involve: Non-consensual, forced physical sexual behavior such as rape, incest or sexual assault, or psychological forms of abuse, such as verbal sexual behavior or...
I dont think this is the right place to post this but i cant think of another, so just any advice is welcomed.
Im currently 9 months pregnant due in 23 days, im in this sittuation because i ended up getting in a 'relationship' with a guy from a friends house i was 16 he was 25. I didnt know him personally i had seen him around and thought he was attractive and so i started dateing him. Like i said i didnt know him at all and at first he was just being protective and it was cute i hadnt had that before, but he started getting controlling and obsessive i couldnt leave my friends house (i was liveing there at the time) with out him at my heels, he wouldnt let me walk around the corner to the store without him. he took my phone and went through it constantly, he controled where i went who i talked to and who i was friends with. the reson i need advice is he was so rough, you all know the game mercy he loved to play it, with out telling you thats what he was doing, id sit the screaming at him to stop that it hurt and he wouldnt because 'you didnt say mercy'. he wouldnt listen to a word i said, he would bite, and i mean bite. i had black spots and bruises all over me, he pulled my hair and grabbed my leggs and arms hard enough to leave bruises. the worst part was sex he never took no for an answer and he brought all of his roughness right with him, i told him over and over dont be so rough but he wouldnt listen. he was alot stronger then me so i got put where he wanted me i never had a word in it i didnt have a choice.
now i have a hard time getting in a relationship, i tried once after i left him, its hard to explain but i had a hrad time being around him, trusting him i geuss i jumped every time he touched me. and the one time we had sex i hated it so much i didnt want to be there i felt sick to my stomach, i had to stop and i left. i dont know what to do, i dont want to be like that.
Im currently 9 months pregnant due in 23 days, im in this sittuation because i ended up getting in a 'relationship' with a guy from a friends house i was 16 he was 25. I didnt know him personally i had seen him around and thought he was attractive and so i started dateing him. Like i said i didnt know him at all and at first he was just being protective and it was cute i hadnt had that before, but he started getting controlling and obsessive i couldnt leave my friends house (i was liveing there at the time) with out him at my heels, he wouldnt let me walk around the corner to the store without him. he took my phone and went through it constantly, he controled where i went who i talked to and who i was friends with. the reson i need advice is he was so rough, you all know the game mercy he loved to play it, with out telling you thats what he was doing, id sit the screaming at him to stop that it hurt and he wouldnt because 'you didnt say mercy'. he wouldnt listen to a word i said, he would bite, and i mean bite. i had black spots and bruises all over me, he pulled my hair and grabbed my leggs and arms hard enough to leave bruises. the worst part was sex he never took no for an answer and he brought all of his roughness right with him, i told him over and over dont be so rough but he wouldnt listen. he was alot stronger then me so i got put where he wanted me i never had a word in it i didnt have a choice.
now i have a hard time getting in a relationship, i tried once after i left him, its hard to explain but i had a hrad time being around him, trusting him i geuss i jumped every time he touched me. and the one time we had sex i hated it so much i didnt want to be there i felt sick to my stomach, i had to stop and i left. i dont know what to do, i dont want to be like that.
You do not have to put up with that, you deserve better. Please consider getting into counselling, it will work wonders once you find a therapist who works for you.
Nothing that happened is your fault. I've always said that if a grown man has to date teenage girls, there's something wrong with him - otherwise why won't women his own age date him?
I am very glad that you are here. This is such a good step, and it shows that you want to become a survivor and stop being a victim! Be proud of yourself for having the courage to voice what happened to you.
You may never forget what happened to you, but you can recover from it. You can learn to cope with it and that it is something that happened to you, not something you chose.
Reporting this man to the authorities is a definite option. As he is over the age of 21, this is definitely statutory rape, and a DNA test will prove that he did it. From there you can probably easily get him put away for both rape and statutory rape. However, I totally understand if you do not want to do that, and it is not your responsibility.
Him being 25 does not protect him. Whoever said it didn't seems to not be understanding the situation.
Whatever the reason, if you do want to keep him away and I don't blame you for wanting to keep the baby safe, then I would keep insisting and keep trying.
You might be able to, when you have the baby, to tell the doctors there. They may be able to help you head your case?
This guy does not sound like a someone to have your brand new baby around or even someone you want involved in the rest of your baby's life... ( your gonna be a Momma soon and what matters most is that little baby - nothing more) the next step might be him getting arrested for violating the order...
You have to be firm and stick to your guns with this... If you have him locked up --- do not back down NOT even one time - if you do then the police won't think you mean it and might not work as hard for you..
Good things can come from one small little police order...