Sorry, I meant "AREN'T on the same page."

he seems to not know how to deal with it..probably tryign to distance himself from it or prove to himself that the world doesn suck sumtimes...bad profession choice if thats what he wants to think LOL

I'm so sorry he hurt you; def a poor response from him. Not every professional is appropriate, or experienced in this sort of trauma; don't give up on the whole bunch of them because of one bad guy; check with a rape crisis center for a reference of a prof. who has experience in your situation.

I had the vary simular experience with my therapist - except she told me (basicly) that I was a hard-case and she didn't know how to help me. So after 5 sessions she wanted to pawn me off onto someone else!

I too was VERY discouraged about going to therapy again, but after talking with a close friend of mine and a few others about it I realize that not all therapists are cut out for their jobs...but there are many that are amazing. So I'll tell you what. I'll give it another go if you do! Just find a different therapist!

GRRR!Your therapist should never have said that to you. He has acted against your best interest and damaged you. That should never happen. In the UK we have the British Association of Counselling Practitioners, and unless they're members I wouldn't go near them. Do you have any public body to protect you, the client, where you are? He has committed a cardinal sin in saying he doesn't believe you, and I can't think why he would do that unless he's overwhelmed by what you told him. If that was the case he should have referred you on to someone who can help with your specific issues.
This makes me fume!!!!! I'm so sorry you were hurt by someone who was supposed to make you feel better. He's broken the first rule of therapy: do no harm.
I hope you find one who can help you. I believe you, and so should your therapist. Good luck.

Thanks for your responses. He's been trying to refer me to a female therapist for weeks now. I guess maybe I was the one who wasn't listening. I didn't realize that maybe I was making him uncomfortable.

When he asked if I wanted to speak with a woman "regarding these issues" because "maybe you'd be more comfortable" I asked him if he was uncomfortable and he said, "NO!" But I guess he is.

I appreciate your words and encouragement to find a different therapist. I will ... but I think I might take some time off first.

All this guy has managed to do is stir up a bunch of PTSD symptoms and then says, "let's focus on your career."

I'm ready to shoot myself in the head and he wants to talk about job opportunities!!??

Thanks again everyone, your responses helped me see things more clearly.

remember proffessional don't always say what they are meaning. It is equally possible he/she knows you are holding back and may be just trying to give you a little push to get you to open up. If you are not telling but are showing signs then maybe this is there way of getting u to open up.

I am a strong advocate of being direct with your counselor. If something strikes youd wrong then I would put the question to them directly. you may be surprised.

Maybe he is trying to push you to a female collegue whom he thinks is better qualified to help you.
If you are not happy with his methods or comments then try someone who you feel more confident with.

My Mother did not believe me, that hurt, now she is dead and I believe she now knows the truth.
You need a therapist that deals with only sexual abuse, check with the womans shelter, they have therapist that will see you!
I saw one at a womans shelter and she was great! Give it a try, promise it will be different, They are trained to treat sexual abuse.
Valerie

when i was first telling about the abuse and learned that my back had been fractured and told my T, he kept asking if it could have happened another way. i kept saying no and he kept asking. i had explicitly asked the dr. this at the time of the -ray and he said no, it was trauma related.

i've yet to have a T that i see on a regular basis be able to help me. they've told me they don't know how to handle me and that they don't know anyone who does.

some people really shouldn't be in this profession.

What do you guys think about a counselor that said she has never had a case that wasnt true?