Sexual Abuse Support Group

Sexual abuse is a relative cultural term used to describe sexual relations and behavior between two or more parties which are considered criminally and/or morally offensive. Different types of sexual abuse involve: Non-consensual, forced physical sexual behavior such as rape, incest or sexual assault, or psychological forms of abuse, such as verbal sexual behavior or...

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c.jones3200
c.jones3200

I need advice on this. 


I recently gave birth and my boyfriend and I currently live together with our new baby.


When I was pregnant he never hurt me. I got pregnant just a couple months into our relationship and it wasn’t planned as it happened while I was on birth control. So most of our relationship has consisted of me being pregnant. Now that I’m not things are different. As SOON as I had my sweet baby he switched. He’s broken a bone of mine on “accident” and injured me a few more times and they were all “accidents” they he blamed on me. This is to let you know what he has done beside what I’m about to share and what I need advice on.



He will grab my privates and not let go when I ask him to please not touch me there. He just laughs and says “come on baby”. He thinks it’s funny? He will grab my breasts and other private parts no matter what I say. When I get mad enough and yell to stop he gets mad. 


I was doing laundry one day and folding clothes on the bed and bend over to pick up some clothing I dropped. When I was upright he pushed me back down and bent me over the bend saying “I like you in this position” and started dry humping me and touching me when I was telling him to stop and quit it. He just held me down and when he was done with his “joke” he let me stand back up and I was angry. He then yelled and told me to lighten up.



the touching goes on and nothing I say stops him. Is this sexual assault? Is this something I could report if it continues? 

lovelilbeany
lovelilbeany
U could report it because it is sexual assult. I dont know which contry ur in as to how they will deal with it but they will often ask for proof because im sure he will deny it.
Im sorry he is doing stuff ur not ok with. Hugs.
donnawanda
donnawanda
Your boyfriend sounds frightening and abusive. Not only is he sexually assaulting you, he is breaking your bones!! This is a case of domestic violence. I suggest you get in touch with a local woman's shelter or online hotline because you are in danger - and if that doesn't seem important enough to take action on, your baby is also in danger. If anything happens to you, what will become of the baby?

There is a group here called Physical and Emotional Abuse. You might want to check them out too.
jules1010
jules1010
I think you should sit down and have a serious conversation with him first. Confront him about his behavior and make sure he clearly understands your concerns. Explain to him what you want out of sex and ask him to do the same. Tell him that his behavior does NOT turn you on and suggest something different for you guys to try. If, after a well-deliberated conversation on this matter, he continues to do the conduct stated above, then it might be time to think about leaving. You are the mother of his child—why would he want to treat your body like that? You guys need to have a serious conversation about your concerns—if his actions don’t change after that then it’s probably time to leave...
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