Sexual Abuse Support Group

Sexual abuse is a relative cultural term used to describe sexual relations and behavior between two or more parties which are considered criminally and/or morally offensive. Different types of sexual abuse involve: Non-consensual, forced physical sexual behavior such as rape, incest or sexual assault, or psychological forms of abuse, such as verbal sexual behavior or...

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Black16
Black16

Im struggling with anger issues , I found out last year my boyfriend of 3 yrs sexually abused my daughter . Long story short He got away with it ! There was 2 allegations made one Child services supported and the other they didnt due to lack of evidence.


He was offered two Polygraphs and would not take them . I wasnt aware that by law you do not have to take them and they are not used in court !


Obviously hes going around town saying Iam a bitter scorned women and my kid made it up ! shes was 15 when she disclosed the information to me and her guidance counselor at school . She also told me when she was 12 he tried to molest her and showed her pornography. 


Im very bitter , I do go to couseling and my daughter does also . She is autistic but very verbal and smart . Im upset that no one believes us ! He has 3 daughter of his own apparently he never tried anything with them . I worked with a victim advocate and the detective all through this mess he caused ! All said and done hes living with another woman and her 3 boys ages 2 11 and 12 ! Hes free and got away with it and Im very angry ! 


Theres more to my story but I cant write anymore . What do I do ? !! we live in a small town , everywhere I go I run into his friends , family etc . I have not run into him yet but Iam careful where I go as I dont want to see him !


Im literally disgusted that anyone and why in the hell these people do this ! 


Thank you for reading !


one pist off mother !


WallbrownF
WallbrownF
I'm not a father, but I do have neices and nephews. I'm not naturally an angry person, but I understand your situation is tough. I also live in a small town area and know it is hard to not run into people. Have you though about relocating? I'm sure you have. Have you tried meditation? The world is a wonderful place that has bad things happen in it sometimes, but remember that people usually become bad because bad things have happened to them. It doesn't make what they do right, but just keep in mind that they are probably broken and need help too. I'm truly sorry that you're in this situation and I can only hope my words can help you in some small way.
Black16
Black16
Thank you , I have thought of relocating . I do plan on it when my daughter graduates.
WallbrownF
WallbrownF
How long until she graduates? I'm assuming rather soon, if you are thinking about sticking it out. I don't know what the right path for you here is, but perhaps you could tell us more of your story and that will help you some. Maybe you could have your friends/family go out with you, when you need to get something or go somewhere. Maybe you could use Amazon Pantry for some items that you don't need quickly or you know around about when you will need them. Hope this helps. <3
donnawanda
donnawanda
Welcome. I am sorry for what brings you here, and can hardly imagine your rage and frustration. There is a group on here for parents whose children were sexually abused - I don't know the name of it but perhaps someone else will provide a link. It will be good for you to connect with other parents in a similar situation.

Are you waiting for your daughter to graduate because that's what she wants? I wonder if she is getting hassled at school and would be just as glad to leave now. You might want to ask her about that.
hopefulmama
hopefulmama
https://www.dailystrength.org/group/parents-whose-children-have-been-sexually-abused.please join us,you will get lots of support.
Bandmom5
Bandmom5
Yes, I agree with hopefulmama, please go to the parents group in the link she provided above. Lots of great supportive people there. So sorry for all you and your daughter are going through, keeping you in my thoughts and prayers...
Eeyore
Eeyore
Please come join our group as helpful mama said we are all in the same situation we understand better than anyone. I for one am the mother of a 27 year old daughter who disclosed 3 months ago, her abuse was 14 years ago and I didn't loo till 3 months ago. Please come join us xx
WallbrownF
WallbrownF
I believe that they are right, but we are still here for you too! <3 & ((hugs))
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