Poeple can be very rude and not understanding. Like someone who told me that the sexual abuse WAS partly my fault so I know how you feel it makes it hard to tell people is you ever need to vent or talk or whatever feel free to sent me a message

thanks.
ugh people are stupid. it's never our fault.
my boyfriend told me it was my fault for not telling anyone and now they thought i was bipolar and put me on tons of meds, but it wasn't my fault for being abused. i don't see how it could ever possibly be our fault.

i'm so anxious for telling her and her acting like it never even happened. i feel sick. i need to start looking for a new doctor. i hope i can find a good one.

That is horrible & wrong. People just don't act right or take the time to put themselves in the position of someone who has been hurt or abused. I totally understand how you feel. The few people I've told about what I've dealt with have not understood and thought that I could have changed my situation.. but they don't understand and unless you've been thru it, it's difficult to put yourself in a position where those actions make sense.

tell her she was rude and get rid of her. It's hard finding a good therapist, just like it's hard finding a good friend! Good Luck!

i mean get rid of your doctor. too many out there to stick with one. I had a doctor who admitted me to a mental hospital against my will because i broke down in her office. she thought i was going to kill myself and i told her no i won't do that i just was upset. she was so ignorant of the situation and only trying to protect herself as she thought i was some liability for her. luckily i got out the next day and the psychiatrist who released me told me to get a different doctor. he knew i didn't belong in there. It was the scariest thing i had ever witnessed. I couldn't sleep all night for fear of being raped in there as it was all open door with men and women. I should write a book one day about it. I was so pissed off at that doctor. I wanted to sue her but felt I wouldn't have a chance in Florida. Quite the eye-opener for me I tell ya!

oh wow, i'm sorry. jeez doctors are so stupid sometimes. yeah i'm looking for a new doctor.

the tutorial i read for the doctors online said that they aren't supposed to ask about sexual abuse right away because it can cause bad flashbacks. yeah, i got like no sleep last night because i had so many nightmares.
i was so anxious yesterday i felt like i was going to throw up the rest of the night.

update for today.i just told my new best friend. we just became really good friends after not talking for a while and i just told her. ah i don't know how she will react.

oh i hate doctors so much.The minute they find out you have any sexual abuse history ,they think all ur symptoms are somatic or in your head.They start treating u like u are crazy.I wish I had never told my medical doctors.they dont take anything I say seriously now..xxxxx

update on my update. my friend took it very well and she's really nice. 8]

That's good about your best friend. Mine took it well, too. Your doctor and boyfriend are horrible, though. I hope you dumped your boyfriend. Some of my doctors know, and they take my complaints seriously. Of course, they didn't always until I got cancer, so now they know they need to pay attention. =/ I had severe acid reflux that wasn't caught until middle school. The doctors figured it out on their own, I never told them. Of course, it's not hard to figure out when you have a four year old patient with a ripped and bleeding anus. Or, when you look at the anus, you see horrible scars around the butt and..."peepee."

Sounds like a good friend then. Keep her.

I have found through life experience that some people just cannot deal with that information from us. Sometimes it is because they were abused themselves and they have not come to terms with it yet or they don't even remember it yet.
Others, like my therapist, could not handle talking about it because he had taken advantage of one of his clients and it hit too close to what he did.
My own husband had a very bad reaction to it. I have not figured out why yet and I am still angry at him about it because it hurt.

I am not at all telling you to stick with this doctor. If it's not a good personality match, it will be bad for your health to keep this doctor.

no my boyfriend wasn't saying it was my fault for being abused, he said it was my fault for being put on medicine. i didn't explain that well, but i didn't tell my psychiatrists and they thought i was bipolar. so he said it was my fault for being on meds because i said it was my fault. because it was. my boyfriend's really understanding and nice and i told him because i knew he would understand and help me and he has.

yeah i probably shouldn't have said anything to my doctor and then just not go back. because she wasn't nice at all. and she told me i was too skinny, which made me really angry because i used to be anorexic and now i'm eating healthy. i probably shouldn't have gotten that angry, but my bmi is average and everything and i'm tired of hearing how i'm too fat or too skinny. i just want someone to be like. oh look, you're healthy, good job. but whatever, i'm looking for a new doctor right now and hopefully i can find one in the next few weeks.