Sexual Abuse Support Group
Sexual abuse is a relative cultural term used to describe sexual relations and behavior between two or more parties which are considered criminally and/or morally offensive. Different types of sexual abuse involve: Non-consensual, forced physical sexual behavior such as rape, incest or sexual assault, or psychological forms of abuse, such as verbal sexual behavior or...
When I was 11, I was staying the night at my friends house, she shared a room with her brother and only had 2 twin beds. Me and her took the two beds while her brother slept on the floor. At about 1 a.m. I was trying to fall asleep and my friend was already asleep. Her brother pulled the blanket off my body slowly, and started pulling my shorts down. At this point I was still awake and frozen in fear. He then started touching my bare butt. He opened his phone and the flash was on suddenly, to this day I’m not sure if he took photos, sent pictures to his friends, or just turned the flash on for his own sick pleasure. He then started fully groping my butt. I attempted shifting a few times to make it seem like I was waking up but he didn’t stop. After a while he finally stopped and I thought he had fallen asleep, I broke down and cried for a couple hours. At one point I tried to wake my friend and tell her through all of my tears. She finally woke up and I explained what happened and she looked genuinely concerned. After a while we all fell asleep and no one brought it up. A couple months later I asked my friend if she remembered what I had said, she said no. So I explained again and broke down in her arms. She loves her brother so much, she hasn’t told anyone, and I don’t have the heart to do that to my best friend because I know how much he means to her.
1) make truth that you don't have to hide
2) deal with unpleasant truth by getting it out into the light, not fun, very messy, has unintended consequences these can be good and bad
hiding unpleasant truth only gives it more sinister power, this power will eat away at you and diminish yours.
say you keep this secret, would you warn any of your other friends not sleep over as you had?
if you don't and someone else gets abused, would that bother you? if so, your strength will diminish further
see, dealing with it is messy and ugly, not dealing with it is messy and ugly
dealing with truth gives one strength, even if they don't realize, hiding truth always sucks life out of those that hide it (life can be strength or for someone like the abusive brother, their soul)
i apologize for not expressing sympathy and compassion.
your situation hits very close to the bone for me.
my beloved ones (yes, that is plural, yes there are a lot of monsters that prey upon the innocent in this world) that dealt with being sexually abused tend to be very matter of fact
i think this helps them see the events objectively which helps them see that they bear no blame & no shame
i hope that you come to have the same understanding
please forgive my directness