bye

I hope you change your mind. I have not talked to you much and truthfully lately I have been spending more time on other boards here. But I do not think you are "ruining" anyone's life! You are helping people more than you realize just be being here and being supportive. Now you need to learn to be supportive and loving to yourself! Let us show you how and help you with it!

Only go if you really need to, don't go because someone else made or makes you feel guilty for their choosen behaviour.

i just feel like i try and try to help ppl and no matter what i do i feel like its never enough

I felt the same when someone read my journal and it sparked some memories for her. I felt responsible but have decided to accept that it was more of life journey experience for both of us. For me, it was knowing that I am only a small part of our universe and that my actions may or may not effect others. It is up to them, not me. My goal is to find some peace and stop harming myself through overeating and couch potato-itis. As I keep trying to get healthy myself, that in itself is way to help others. They see me and see my problems but they also see that I don't give up, no matter what. I am not responsible for other's health and well-being. I cannot change another person. Good luck finding your healing. Please be kind and loving to yourself. xox

We can only help those who want to help themselves, if someone saids they are going to do something your words won't always be enough to stop them - what they choose to do with your words is their CHOICE not yours nor is it your responsiblity

Crimson, You may think your not making a difference. Your just being here makes a difference because there is someone out there that can relate to you.

You have probably made a difference and don't even know it. Sometime we post things and don't know that our response gave someone the courage to do something or not to do something.

Do not under estimate what your being here has done for someone else.

With love!

I hope your just talking about leaving DS.

I think you should focus on you. If DS makes you feel bad about yourself, then find some other site or other mechanism of working through your pain. This should be about you and not anyone else, so if it starts becoming about helping other people for you, it maybe time for you to step away. I think it might be good for you to work with a therapist to make sure that the focus remains on your healing. Please be loving to yourself and if you do leave DS, I wish you much happiness and love.

crimsome. i hope you do not leave. you are important to all of us.
I understand that sometimes you feel like a lone voice in the middle of the forest. but you are heard. and you are being very supportive of so many others here. i hope you change your mind.

on another note.

i believe an important part of recovery is to be willing to help and share and be open minded. I think you are putting to much responsibility on yourself for others recovery. Each of us has to take our own responsibility for our recovery. Other peoples recovery should not get in the way of our own.

you are right, it is so painful to be helping others only to see the behavior happen all over again. that really tares my heart out and your's to. But with each effort you make - you are helping bring that person one little bit of support and probably a step closer to making things better for themselves.

Every mountain is climbed one little step at a time. it is the same for supporting people. you cannot expect to see results every time you take a step up the mountain. recovery is a process that requires patience.

your support and you are needed here. I understand how you feel. and ds would not be as strong without you.

Believe me many of us have felt as you do.

good luck and i hope you reconsider.