Sexual Abuse Support Group
Sexual abuse is a relative cultural term used to describe sexual relations and behavior between two or more parties which are considered criminally and/or morally offensive. Different types of sexual abuse involve: Non-consensual, forced physical sexual behavior such as rape, incest or sexual assault, or psychological forms of abuse, such as verbal sexual behavior or...
Almost everyone I know says I should either go to the police, or at least tell my parents what happened.
I have no desire to do that, mainly becuase my parents would flip out and not do anything to hep. They could not handle my suicide attempt, or my cutting. How could they handle me telling me I was raped twice?
Going to the police is out the question as well. The woman who abused me moved away and I have not seen her in eight years. My half sister's husband to is gone; hell, he might even be dead. he had lung cancer several years ago.
On one hand, I am happy my family doesn't know. But on the other, it upsets me that I have to live with it alone. Most of the people I tell don't seem to care, or just tell me to report it to the police. Which I can not do.
If I were to go to the police, the evidence is long gone. Plus the statute of limitations has run out (or maybe not, I have no idea.)
So does it make me a bad person to completely ignore my rapes and go about my life acing as if they never happened? I don't want therapy becuase there is no point in my eyes.
I have no desire to do that, mainly becuase my parents would flip out and not do anything to hep. They could not handle my suicide attempt, or my cutting. How could they handle me telling me I was raped twice?
Going to the police is out the question as well. The woman who abused me moved away and I have not seen her in eight years. My half sister's husband to is gone; hell, he might even be dead. he had lung cancer several years ago.
On one hand, I am happy my family doesn't know. But on the other, it upsets me that I have to live with it alone. Most of the people I tell don't seem to care, or just tell me to report it to the police. Which I can not do.
If I were to go to the police, the evidence is long gone. Plus the statute of limitations has run out (or maybe not, I have no idea.)
So does it make me a bad person to completely ignore my rapes and go about my life acing as if they never happened? I don't want therapy becuase there is no point in my eyes.
I know you do not see theraoy has helping and that is okay. It will take time. Everyone heals in there own way, but therapy can help. Therapy has helps me heal some and helped me to love myself after being through the abuse.
Please know that I am here for you. Message me anytime.
Hugs
Shana 25 yrs. old
I will tell you that, for me, stuffing it, trying to ignore it, numbing myself with drugs/alcohol/men/sex.....never worked. It always kept working it's way back to the surface. I ran from it until I finally crashed into a brick wall of my own denial. From my experience...it doesn't go away on it's own. I had to face it and really dig down deep and deal with it and all the ways it had affected my life. I don't talk about it with my family...since they do not support me. But I have found a great group of women whom I meet with and share common feelings with on a weekly basis. Talking with other survivors and knowing I'm not alone has helped me more than any thing else I have ever tried.
The fact that you are here and talking about it suggests to me that you do want to talk about what happened to you so you can deal with it and move forward. You have found a great place to start. Keep talking about what happened to you. In my experience, it is the quickest way to relaese yourself from the shame, guilt, fear and pain of sexual abuse.
Peace and healing,
Pam