Sexual Abuse Support Group

Sexual abuse is a relative cultural term used to describe sexual relations and behavior between two or more parties which are considered criminally and/or morally offensive. Different types of sexual abuse involve: Non-consensual, forced physical sexual behavior such as rape, incest or sexual assault, or psychological forms of abuse, such as verbal sexual behavior or...

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ct291302
ct291302
I am trying to get ahold of my brain and my emotions over the last couple months for things that happened long ago. It surprised me how things can come back and bite you so to speak after being shoved aside too long. I am having terrible nightmares. Some I know are real, others are new and I'm afraid they might be real. Some days I feel like I am going insane. How does a person begin to heal from this feeling of shame and sadness and fear of everything. I went from a successful nurse to an isolated person who goes virtually no where alone. AAAGGHHH! So frustrated with myself today!
deleted_user
deleted_user
I understand totally how you feel. I am only coming to the point after 40 years that I am able to look at the sexual abuse and try to deal with it. There are times I feel so overwhelmed and think I am going to go insane. It is perfectly normal to go through those things and feel them. We were not able to feel them because we were children so we feel the things we did not have the capacity to feel back then. You will be ok, we will survive. We are survivors or we would not even be here to tell our story. Hang in there.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I'm so sorry you are going through this, it does come up and just smack some of us really hard. You are not going insane, when these memories come back it is frightening,overwhelming and it does make you feel like your going insane. The first thing you need to do is start seeing a therapist. One that knows how to deal with sexual abuse. It is not your fault that this happened to you, so please don't blame yourself. The healing process started with you reaching out for help. The support group here is awesome, you will find many caring people that have had similar pasts. Know that you are not alone. I have not been on the site for long but I have found a lot of supportive people.

I buried my past for 30+ years before it smacked me. Nightmares are hard to deal with, I myself have to take medication to stop them. Not knowing if they really happened is hard to deal with also, My nightmares were flashbacks, and so they were real events but you really need to work with therapist on that.

I hope I helped.
ct291302
ct291302
Thanks so much. I'm hanging on for what has been one heck of a ride, I am attempting to talk but I get choked up way to fast, much easier to write. Seems more detached some how. I will make it, one day at a time. I am writing daily which is helping a lot. I guess you can't really move forward until you look back and mourn so I am trying to be easy on myself and just BREATHE....
deleted_user
deleted_user
Breathing is important, look into mindfulness exercises that may help you also, it can be a wild ride sometimes, I struggle daily, with the help of skills and therapy I cope and continue to heal and you can to. It is really hard to talk, choking up is pretty common. If you can find a therapist, they can often help with slowly talking, this goes at your speed, no one can force it to faster. There are a lot of books that can help also, one that comes to mind is courage to heal. The author is a survivor and I think it's a great book, There's a workbook that goes with it, I wouldn't recommend trying to go through thevworkbook without therapist support, some of it digs pretty deep and having support is good. Good luck on your journey.