Sexual Abuse Support Group

Sexual abuse is a relative cultural term used to describe sexual relations and behavior between two or more parties which are considered criminally and/or morally offensive. Different types of sexual abuse involve: Non-consensual, forced physical sexual behavior such as rape, incest or sexual assault, or psychological forms of abuse, such as verbal sexual behavior or...

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kathyrsh

kathyrsh
kathyrsh
first time in here..read one post..makes my problem seem small..your all brave hero's to me..survivors..i was molested once as a child by my mothers boyfriend then when i grew up married an EVIL HORRIBLE DEMON of a man that made me feel that way everyday..almost drank myself to death then got the nerve to leave for my 4 year old daughters sake..was afraid he might try something with her..i came in here to hear how you all dealt with the feelings..i'm 55 now and i HATE HATE HATE sex and the resentment i just don't know..how you all made it thru..i only had a small portion of what some of you have gone thru..i'm sitting here choked up with tears in my eyes for your suffering..may God bless you all
riseabove
riseabove
what i am learning is it doesn't matter how many times it happened, even if it happened once, it can affect our lives forever. i wasn't even touched, but what i saw has affected me badly. i hate sex also because i get flashbacks. i am glad that you left your husband and protected your daughter! this website has helped me sooo much in the last week! i am new to this group too :)
kathyrsh
kathyrsh
thanks carrie for the reply..sometimes i think the anger and rage i feel is the hardest thing to deal with..i had cancer surger about a month ago..they took off half of me down there and i think i am finally realizing why it didn't upset me emotionaly the way i thought it would..because of the hate and rage i have towards sex..guess i'm gonna have to work on that one..hope thing just get better and better for you..
kathyrsh
kathyrsh
just noticed i didn't title my post..sorry
deleted_user
deleted_user
Hi,
all forms of abuse can be extermely traumatic even if it doesnt involve physical contact.
I didnt really deal with my abuse properly. I told my mum about my dad abusing me and she wasnt very supportive and didnt do much. So as an 11 year old child I had to battle on alone and i guess i coped by repressing my emotions and pushing the memories to the back of my mind.
you cant just do that and move on. 10 years on from the last abuse and i have all sorts of issues, anger, isolation, depression etc. I have realised im going to have to deal with it properly. i never really had therapy in the past and so im going to be doing that and anything else i need to do to work on my healing.
ive heard emdr and eft are good. i hear journalling is good.
my recent ex was a liar and cheat and that just added to my problems. i now feel repulsed by men and have been celibate for 2 years. Im only a relationship person, i dont do casual and coz i feel i cant trust men now i havent been with a man since my ex.
I guess in the future we may meet a nice, trustworthy man who we will get to know slowly until we are comfortable with them rather than jumping in to anything.
in the meantime im working on my healing, being positive and loving myself and trying to enjoy other things in life.
i wish you all the best.
take care