Sexual Abuse Support Group
Sexual abuse is a relative cultural term used to describe sexual relations and behavior between two or more parties which are considered criminally and/or morally offensive. Different types of sexual abuse involve: Non-consensual, forced physical sexual behavior such as rape, incest or sexual assault, or psychological forms of abuse, such as verbal sexual behavior or...
I have a few thoughts I need to write down here.
I was abused for over 20 years by a family member. How do I forgive him? I really do not talk to him much anymore but I do see him. I have nightmares alot of the time about this abuse. I cant be with anyone becuse of this. I just recently told another family member about what went down over the years and he basically doesnt believe me. I get "oh he wouldnt do that" yey ok. I feel like my life is ruinned. Also I was also raped to in another incedent. That is haunting me to. My question is how do I get past all this? I did go through some counseling but I think I need to go back for more but afraid to. I have a lot of fear in me.
I was abused for over 20 years by a family member. How do I forgive him? I really do not talk to him much anymore but I do see him. I have nightmares alot of the time about this abuse. I cant be with anyone becuse of this. I just recently told another family member about what went down over the years and he basically doesnt believe me. I get "oh he wouldnt do that" yey ok. I feel like my life is ruinned. Also I was also raped to in another incedent. That is haunting me to. My question is how do I get past all this? I did go through some counseling but I think I need to go back for more but afraid to. I have a lot of fear in me.
Denial is the thing that kills. People don't want to think it happens in their families and NO not them. Well, what does a child molester look like? He looked just like my brother. Some people just can't get over the denial.
Go back to counseling. You need to, It didn't ruin your life, but it has forever changed it. You need to find your normal in life whatever that is to you.
I know I have a lot of trust issues. I am not sure I fully trust anyone. I was mentally abused by my dad, and brother. I was physically abused by mom ex husband, I was cheated on with this husband I am married to... So, I have little faith in men.
I have that hard shell that some people will never see that soft side because I do it to protect myself.
God Blesss you and know you are not alone in this.
One night God showed me a door with a light under it. I was awake laying in bed and for some reason I went to the door. I looked in and I felt relief. I knew at that time my healing had begun.
I am sorry that your brother did this to you, too. I hope that you find your peace within. I am still working on me, but I think I have come a long way. Keep blogging, reading and writing in a journal. Write your brother a letter and spew out everything you feel to him. Burn it. Write again. Burn it! Tell strangers about him. Get on a bus where you know no one. As you get off tell the lady beside you. " I was sexually abused by my brother" and leave. The more you tell the more the poison is released!