Unfortunately Hyper sexuality is a side effect that often happens from sexual abuse. I went thru that as a teen too. I'm not proud of it now but actually had sex after meeting someone on a bus. just some random guy. I didn't even get really pleasure from it. Whenever I feel myself slipping back into that again I try to read my bible and pray. It usually goes away with prayer.

You talk about sex the way an alcoholic might talk about drinking - why shouldn't I do it, it makes me feel so good?!

I do understand what you're saying because I've been through it too. I remember hearing a comedian say once that the difference between women's desire and men's desire is like the difference between throwing a bullet and shooting a bullet. Well I was definitely shooting bullets!! And it was fierce!! Thank God I never cheated on my husband but boy was I tempted.

I'm not saying you and your husband should stay together forever. You married very young and maybe you are and maybe you're not meant to be together. But this is something different. This is a compulsion driven by early trauma. And if you cheat on him driven by this compulsive need, that's called "acting out". It will be destructive to you and to him. It will undermine your own sense of integrity. I urge you to find a way to handle this that allows you to hold onto your sense of integrity. You have suffered enough because of the abuse ... try not to add to your suffering in this way.

I wish I knew the answer to make that strong drive go away. All I can say is, grit your teeth and try to get through it with fantasy and masturbation.

I was abused at the age of six and found myself obsessed about Girls in my School younger than me ever since puberty. Now, having heard about all the stories about Child Abuse, I retreat even further. At School and Uni I was a functioning Sex Addict, then I got really into IP.

I still feel triggered by Young Girls, but now I realise it's not worth getting your throat slashed in Prison for.

I had the same feelings as you. I was having sex all the time in my early twenties. At the time that was not good for me. I did not realize that the reason I was having sex with so many guys was that deep inside I didn't feel like I had a choice.

In my mid twenties I got comfortable with my sexuality. I still had the occasional flashback, but I enjoyed sex and liked to experiment. I was much more picky about who I would have sex with and I felt in control.

That is gone now that I'm married. Before I got married I told my husband that I didn't want a monogamous relationship. I really didn't even want to get married, but we had a five year old son and my doctors said I needed someone to take care of me. My husband said he was fine with what I wanted,

For a while I was happy with just him. As I said I was picky about who I wanted to sleep with, but as soon as I found someone I did want to have sex with he freaked out and got emotionally abusive. He made me feel like a slut. I'm still trying to get past this.

Therapy doesn't help. All I hear is that monogamy is the only normal thing for a woman to want. That anything else is only caused by trauma and should be avoided. I think this is BS.

I think you really have to look at how you feel. Do you feel in control of your sexual impulses? Do you really want to have sex with other people or do you just like the idea of it? Maybe, you just need other physical outlets that aren't sex.

I've realized for myself that I really am not a monogamous person. It's driving me crazy that I'm in the relationship I'm in now.

You need to find out what is right for you and not rush to any decision.

Thank you all for your replies. Being honest with my husband has helped... I mean, it aint pretty, but he and I are committed to trying, and being honest.