Sexual Abuse Support Group
Sexual abuse is a relative cultural term used to describe sexual relations and behavior between two or more parties which are considered criminally and/or morally offensive. Different types of sexual abuse involve: Non-consensual, forced physical sexual behavior such as rape, incest or sexual assault, or psychological forms of abuse, such as verbal sexual behavior or...
not sure really where to start... my family is not a normal family by any stretch of the imagination.
Well, my grandfather, i hate saying that, raped my mother every day from the age of nine.
he manipulated her mind into thinking that her mother and 5 brothers wouldnt believe or love her if she told anyone.
She went through unimaginable hell day in , day out, from a man, her father, who was supposed to protect her from the world.
instead, he would use her for his own satisfaction and pleasure, if she ever refused, he would get in a bad mood and would beat up her brothers and her mother, repeatedly.
my mum has told me that to save her brother and her mother from that she would allow him to abuse her, she once thought she was pregnant by him at the age of 14.Thankfully she wasnt and she finally managed to escape him when she was 17 , one day while he was at work she left home and moved into a bedsit.
He then came home from work, and beat my grandmother when he learnt that she had gone.
My grandmother knew all along what he was doing to her, and for reasons i have yet to learn, she turned a blind eye, maybe she was scared of him, he was a very violent man, maybe she ha nowhere to go with her six children in the 60's. I dont know.
But the thing i cant get my already mixed up head around, is that i was allowed to stay with him, on my own , at the age of 11, and he did assault me, not as far as having intercourse with me, but enough for me to not feel right. I did not at this time know what my mother had to endure as a child and was very shocked to learn what infact had happened to her.
This is my problem...
I ask my mum why i was allowed to stay with him and her answer is always that she truly believed that he wouldnt do anything to me or my sister. I took him to court, but he was found not guilty, i have asked my mum why she did not make allegations against him, the fact is there was only ever 2 witnesses, my grandmother, and once my uncle happened to witness an act on my mother. Neither would testify against him, therefore it would be her word against him.
I do not blame my mum, if anything, hearing what happened to her is far worse, and i just cannot move forward with my life, i find it very hard to understand, i have four children and if anyone touched them i would probably kill them.
he lives not very far away from me and i sometimes see him, its eating away at my moral soul and i need help. It seems like its been brushed under the carpet. HELP ME
Well, my grandfather, i hate saying that, raped my mother every day from the age of nine.
he manipulated her mind into thinking that her mother and 5 brothers wouldnt believe or love her if she told anyone.
She went through unimaginable hell day in , day out, from a man, her father, who was supposed to protect her from the world.
instead, he would use her for his own satisfaction and pleasure, if she ever refused, he would get in a bad mood and would beat up her brothers and her mother, repeatedly.
my mum has told me that to save her brother and her mother from that she would allow him to abuse her, she once thought she was pregnant by him at the age of 14.Thankfully she wasnt and she finally managed to escape him when she was 17 , one day while he was at work she left home and moved into a bedsit.
He then came home from work, and beat my grandmother when he learnt that she had gone.
My grandmother knew all along what he was doing to her, and for reasons i have yet to learn, she turned a blind eye, maybe she was scared of him, he was a very violent man, maybe she ha nowhere to go with her six children in the 60's. I dont know.
But the thing i cant get my already mixed up head around, is that i was allowed to stay with him, on my own , at the age of 11, and he did assault me, not as far as having intercourse with me, but enough for me to not feel right. I did not at this time know what my mother had to endure as a child and was very shocked to learn what infact had happened to her.
This is my problem...
I ask my mum why i was allowed to stay with him and her answer is always that she truly believed that he wouldnt do anything to me or my sister. I took him to court, but he was found not guilty, i have asked my mum why she did not make allegations against him, the fact is there was only ever 2 witnesses, my grandmother, and once my uncle happened to witness an act on my mother. Neither would testify against him, therefore it would be her word against him.
I do not blame my mum, if anything, hearing what happened to her is far worse, and i just cannot move forward with my life, i find it very hard to understand, i have four children and if anyone touched them i would probably kill them.
he lives not very far away from me and i sometimes see him, its eating away at my moral soul and i need help. It seems like its been brushed under the carpet. HELP ME
I grew up being abused by just about everybody in my family from childhood to adulthood and they all act like it's normal but so do the people in the community I grew up in.
Sometimes you just have to do what's best for you because you can't make others understand right from wrong