Sexual Abuse Support Group
Sexual abuse is a relative cultural term used to describe sexual relations and behavior between two or more parties which are considered criminally and/or morally offensive. Different types of sexual abuse involve: Non-consensual, forced physical sexual behavior such as rape, incest or sexual assault, or psychological forms of abuse, such as verbal sexual behavior or...
I was rape on June 12, 2008.... they guy who raped me keeps coming around, everytime he comes around me he's always doing the same things to me over and over and over again, he tries to get down my pants but, thank GOD someone always comes around or yells for me.... I want to go through the legal system so bad BUT (here's why im stuck in a rock and a hard place) He is dating my adopted sister, he is the father of my niece and nephew, if i was to report it i'd lose my sister and my niece and nephew, but if i don't he's going to keep it up... but im also scared to report him because of what he told me when he raped me last year... He told me that if i ever told anyone that he did this to me and he found out i would regret telling them, he said that he would make sure that i can't tell anyone else ever again, and said that hewould flee the country and make it so that nobody could ever find him, im scared for my life, if i do go through the legal system he'll know that i told, and keep his word, if it's not him i know exactly who he'll have do it, i'll refuse any type of shelter because of the fact that he knows where all my family lives and i don't want anything happening to them, i would rather something happen to me before them.... someone please help me, i really honestly do NOT know what to do
Sorry, I don't know the legal system so can't advise you even though you said you didn't want to go thru the legal system. I was wishing I knew it so that you could find a loop hole in it and go thru it without him finding out.
Is it possible for you to move to another state? You may not want to, but is it possible?
In the meantime, obviously, try never to be alone with him around.
It's a hell of a way to live. Sorry.
it would be my honest recommendation that you do report this person, even though i know you're scared, because a monster like him should never be allowed to hurt you, your sister, or your sister's children. the fact that he has been constantly attacking you is proof in itself that he is very dangerous and should not be allowed near you or your family. you will not loose them, you will save them from suffering how you have suffered.
i reported my abuser to the police and it was really scary but i don't have any regrets at all. the fact that he threatened you the way he did is evidence that he is scared that you will report him which is exactly what you should do.
can you talk to a lawyer? there are many sexual abuse attorneys out there who can probably tell you more about the legal aspect than i can. you may want to just to find out what legal protection you are qualified for. i'm sure you can at least get advice for free if finances are an issue. that would be a step in the right direction.
don't be afraid, everything is going to be okay. just take all of this one step at a time. you'll know when you're ready, be kind to yourself and give yourself as much time as you need to feel that you are doing the right thing.
i'm usually here a few times a week if you ever want to message me, i'm always happy to help in any way i can. i'd be willing to tell you about my court experience too if you like.
just take care of yourself and know that you are not alone.
*hugs*
xx
Keep your chin up.