Totally embarrass him by calling him on it. Get a polaroid camera if you need blackmail evidence. Post the pics at school. Ok, maybe that would be going too far, but seriously, if he's not gonna stop, what are you to do?

i guess i could embarrass him, when i confront him about it he's like what are u talking about or he just doesnt answer...i cant deal with that, but i know hes a guy and thats what they do

You are how old and still having to share a room with a brother that is how old? Embarrass the hell out of him! And tell him to have some respect and consideration!

LOL i am 16 and my brother is my twin soo hes 16 too

i wanna embarrass him, but im someone who cares soo much about others peoples feelings even if they dont like me i still care =]

try talking to him about it, ask him to do it somewhere else or something tell him that you 2 share a room and you think thats too much you need some respect in the room and he should atleast understand that and do it somewhere else...but if that doesnt work i guess embarassing him might but dont make it to mean and only in front of a few people because it could back fire on you.

Ok, so who should i embarrass him in front of our best cousin, or my nest friend? i've tried talking to him and he said fine he wont do it so i guess he forgot but doesnt care

How about embarrassing him in front of the parents in an attempt to lobby for a room of your own? If that would work? Other than that, anyone will do! If it were me, I am just evil enough to mention something about it in front of the girl he likes, but that is just me and a pretty cold thing to do to a brother!

I'm sorry, I don't know your back story but are your parents in the picture and, if so, can you talk to them?

This is a conversation to have with your parents AND your brother together.

What he's doing is pretty natural for a boy his age ... but he needs to have more respect for you and your feelings. He needs to find a private place (maybe the bathroom or another room where he can have some privacy) but a shared bedroom is NOT appropriate for him to continue those actions.

Instead of "embarrassing" him in front of your cousin or school friends I think it would be better to approach this as a real problem (which it is) and ask your parents to get involved.

I don't think it has to be any major meeting or drama scene but if you're all home one night call your brother and parents into the same room (kitchen is good, since it's neutral) and say, "I've already talked to (brother's name) about this issue but he's not respected my request so I'm bringing it up to you. I want him to stop masterbating in his bed while I'm in the same room. It bothers me and I find it offensive."

Hopefully your parents will take it from there. If not, then you've achieved the "embarrassment" factor that was suggested previously.

Good luck.

No, they wont, and i seem to always be complaining about something so they are sooo tired of me...

mtnmama62 : we are planning on moving and i will be sharing a room with my baby sister, we're moving at the end of this month so ill just suck it up til then

I like Kayla's approach. Talk to him one-on-one and ask him to stop. But if that doesn't work, embarrassing him in front of others MIGHT work but I doubt it. It might be more effective to just ignore it.

At that age, most if not all guys "whack off" at one time or another. But it seems to go to one of two extremes: The vast majority of guys would be absolutely mortified to even talk about it, much less to actually be caught doing it. If he's not like that, then he's probably in the other extreme of guys who get off on being observed. If its the latter, then ignoring him is the best route because calling attention to it or even embarrassing him just feeds his fantasies.

Not long to wait for a "girl's room" then. Yay! I think at 16 you should pretty much have a spot where it's girl's only, even if the other girl is a sister that can sometimes be annoying like all little sisters can. And that will end the problem of having to listen to your brother. Now, how to deal with it until then? Portlander has a good point. Maybe ignoring it may be the answer for a short term solution.

Maybe you can try going to bed a bit earlier than him and perhaps using headphones / listening to music while in bed? :)

Other than that - hang in there! Maybe he feels that it isn't a big deal - does he know that you were abused? Maybe if he knew that it IS a big deal and not just you being annoying.

*hugs*

aww, he knows about the abuse, i told him it bothers me because of that, but he doesnt take me seriously....no one does =[

soo i just wait it out were suppose to move sson and im gonna share my room with my baby sis...head phones work but once i know hes doing it i go into this panic attack thing

I can understand how this can be re-traumatizing for you. I find it totally unacceptable a) to have two kids of different genders in the same room at 16 yrs old (twins or not) and b) that your parents would not find this to be at very least, mildly incestuous behavior since your brother has been confronted on it but continues to do it. Can you crash on the couch or share a bed with your sis until you move? It might seem unfair that you have to inconvenience yourself over this in the meantime, but in the long run I think you will be saving yourself from further disturbing memories.

I would sleep on the couch! anything to avoid that!