Sexual Abuse Support Group

Sexual abuse is a relative cultural term used to describe sexual relations and behavior between two or more parties which are considered criminally and/or morally offensive. Different types of sexual abuse involve: Non-consensual, forced physical sexual behavior such as rape, incest or sexual assault, or psychological forms of abuse, such as verbal sexual behavior or...

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girlhiding
girlhiding

So not sure where to start. but here goes. I'm seventeen, and honestly I'm at the end of my rope. Dont know what to do anymore. But before i go anyfurther i suppose id better explain why im writing this (probably pointless/ridiculous) post.


My dad died three years ago and my mom works three jobs trying to support me and my two older brothers. my oldest brother Tommy (21 years) he started to do stuff right before dad died. sixteen months ago he started raping me. Simon (18years) knows nothing about what is going on, basically because he is never home and always at his girlfriends. 


my mom is hardly ever home because of the jobs (a total of four hours). i tried telling her what Tommy does when i found out i was pregnant (im 36weeks now) but she called me a liar and said he was the only reason why she was able to work. otherwise the state would come and take us to prison. needless to say our relationship isnt too good right now. 


i dont know whats gonna happen when my daughter is born or what im going to do about Tommy. ive thought about just running away. but hed find me and punish me. thats what he does when i fight him. 


part of me just wants to hide under a rock, but i dont think even that would keep him away. 

2magicman
2magicman
Hi girlhiding. So sorry to hear about your father. My father died before I could tell him everything that happened to me during my abdution. It is not your fault the one who hurt you is at fault. And Tommy should pay you to support your child. If the stachuts have not run out he belongs in prison for what he has done. Running away does not work because when you return and wate for things to get better it will catch right back up to you. I offer you continued support.

Scott
unwantedgirl19
unwantedgirl19
You need to tell someone. I know its hard to believe but you will not be sent to prison. in most cases they will try to find you another home to stay in, called a foster home. and despite the stigma most of them are fairly decent (coming from a former foster child). What are you going to do when he decides hes gonna hurt that precious daughter of yours? Its better to get away from him now, then to regret it later.
donnawanda
donnawanda
I agree that you must tell someone - you can call your state's child protective services or you can call the police. A DNA test of your daughter will prove that you're not lying about what Tommy did. As unwantedgirl said, you have to do this for the protection of your daughter and yourself. It is not right for you to live in fear and suffer ongoing abuse.

Please let us know what happens. We care about you.
clsdff01
clsdff01
I agree with everyone here, girlhiding, you need to tell someone. As hard as it may be, you have the perfect evidence against your brother with the DNA of your child. I know that it may be terrifying to think about the process after you report your brother. If you choose to tell, and I hope you do, you may want to research what happens so that you can prepare yourself.
If he is still doing this to you, you may find that calling the police or CPS immediately after he has done something also provides great evidence.

We care about you here and you have plenty of people who will provide you advice or simply be someone to listen to. Please reach out and get help.
girlhiding
girlhiding
I did. I told my obgyn durring my appointment today. he tried to strangle me last night. or maybe did. he just laughed about it. all because he wanted to see what happened.
so right now i am in the staff lounge at the doctors office. the officers talked with me and are now trying to track down mom. and we are also waiting for a social worker to show up. not sure what to expect but im glad i carry my laptop everywhere. gives me something else to concentrate on. dont know what to expect. all i know is im scared. but last night i just kept thinking after, what if he didnt stop as i was passing out.
clsdff01
clsdff01
We are all proud of you. Stay strong.
donnawanda
donnawanda
You did the right thing! Please keep us updated.
girlhiding
girlhiding
Yeah right. Feel like i just got struck across the face right now. Mom promised she was going to kick him out and even made a show of it in front of the cops and social worker. Till she is born it is a he said she said case. the second they were gone she told me that it was just for show. he would stay at a friend for a few days. she also told me that if i didnt cut out this nonsense that i could leave, and if i do that shes gonna take my baby away because im not worthy. is that even possible?
Gutted
Gutted
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