Sexual Abuse Support Group
Sexual abuse is a relative cultural term used to describe sexual relations and behavior between two or more parties which are considered criminally and/or morally offensive. Different types of sexual abuse involve: Non-consensual, forced physical sexual behavior such as rape, incest or sexual assault, or psychological forms of abuse, such as verbal sexual behavior or...
i hope this is alright. my name is Julie, and im 14.
i dont know where to begin so im just going to start at the begining.
Three years ago my parents divorced and that was the best thing ever. The fighting stopped and they came up with a good plan. my dad helps out with me and my brother when we are with mom and mom helps out when we are with dad. We get to spend summers and christmas break with dad. the rest of the time with mom.
this worked great until my mom married my stepdad. i mean they still get alone and the problem isnt with my parents. its with my oldest stepbrother who is the problem.
about a month after we moved in with them he started cornering me and touching me. i told him to stop and he said to stop being such a baby. all women want it, and he was willing to give. i tried telling mom but she told me i shouldnt make accusations like that. that she knew it was going to be a hard transition but that was no excuse for saying that.
it was a few days after my fourteenth birthday this year, when mom and my stepdad went out on a date, my brother and two younger step brothers were spending the night at a friends. i honestly thought i would be able to get away with staying in my room door locked. no such luck. he got in to the bedroom and he didnt stop at touching this time. he makes me do it with him now any time he gets the chance.
a few weeks ago summer vaca started so im with dad. things are ok i guess. he had a bunch of things planned forus to do which is normally great but now he thinks that he did something and things are getting strained between us. meanwhile im just wondering how anybody cannot see how gross and disgusting i am.
anyways...part of me wants to tell dad, so i wont have to go back. but he probably wont believe me either. maybe i should just run away at the end of the summer and never come back. got three more years before my stepbrother goes to college so really not looking forward to going back to moms.
guess i just had to tell someone. hope nobody minds.
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I feel so dirty and used I was drunk and passed out at a party when I came around some guy was on top of me rapeing me he covered my mouth and told me to shut up afterwards he got up and got dressed and said I better not tell anyone I found my friend and reported that I had been raped after having medical checks and them getting DNA I've taken the morning after pill IAM just so depressed and...
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Upon his departure, he remarked, "I am in many people’s pockets; no one will believe you." Have you ever grappled with the silence that follows sexual assault, where the perceived impossibility of being believed necessitates self-censorship?
You need to tell another adult. If you feel safe telling your father then please do. If not, you need to tell someone at school when you get back. An adult needs to know what is happening. I am glad you are with your father for the summer but I can see how unnerving it is to know you will eventually go back to your mothers. Please tell someone before you go back to your mothers.
Your stepbrother is extremely messed up.
Please let us know what has happened. We are all here in support of you. You are not gross or disgusting at all and none of this is your fault. You are the innocent victim in all this.
tomorrow we go down to the police station.
Happy to tears that your dad heard and believed you.
SuzA