Sexual Abuse Support Group

Sexual abuse is a relative cultural term used to describe sexual relations and behavior between two or more parties which are considered criminally and/or morally offensive. Different types of sexual abuse involve: Non-consensual, forced physical sexual behavior such as rape, incest or sexual assault, or psychological forms of abuse, such as verbal sexual behavior or...

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bratpack 07/15/2008

do u realy ever get over being abused or raped i do not know if i have or ever will i still but the blame on myself to this day what if i had done this instead of this than maybe this would of never happened and i sill can not sleep at night i go to bed at 4 sometimes 5am and than get up around 8 or 9 am i feel likea zoombe will that every change either will i ever be able to sleep peacefully agian and iam 19 i do not date and go clubing iam to afraid my last boyfriend was when i 10 i have tried dating sence then but i would not even let the guy kiss me so it just did not work out between us and i just think i will never date agian do any of you experience the same thing and every time i try to close my eyes at night and go to bed early is all i see is those who abused me

deleted_user 07/15/2008

hey
i dont no if you ever really get over it fully. some people have said to me that you do it just takes time but my abuse stopped nearly 4years ago and i still have nights where i close my eyes and its like i can see the abuse happening but im stuck on the spot watching it happen to myself and i cant move to try and stop it.
I dont seem to have a problem dating but i do have a problem trusting and i no that sometimes things that are said or the way my partner does something not sexually but in general trigger memories. I think it is something that takes alot of time to get over but i have found that slowly things are getting better and by talking to my partner when i need to it does help.
best wishes
xxx

deleted_user 07/15/2008

IDK...I think that it willalways be part of your history...but it does not need to define you as a person, a woman, one day a mother?
You have every right to seek help to deal...this is a very real thing that happened...and you are worth it!
Good job getting this far...praying you will find a bridge to the other side.
Take good care of you...for you are my buddy and I won't except anything less!
Huggies, G

deleted_user 07/16/2008

I can say yes. Absolutely. You can get over being abused. Which doesn't mean you won't remember it, but it won't be control your life. You won't lose sleep over it. The thing that has helped me the most to get beyond the abuse is EMDR therapy. It transformed my life - no exaggeration.

My first bit of advice would be to go to the doctor and get some medication to help you sleep. Sleep deprivation is a killer. It makes everything harder. Sleep is essential for mental and physical health. I went through a phase of insomnia several years ago and I began hallucinating. It was horrid. The importance of sleep cannot be overrated.

My second piece of advice is to get into therapy if you're not already doing that. In my experience, recovery from sexual abuse needs the help of a professional.

Good luck and Please be gentle with yourself. (((HUG)))

deleted_user 07/16/2008

yes. until a couple of years ago i never would have said this. getting over it comes when you want your life to be different and better than it was. it is all part of the recovery and it really is totally achieveble.

I only have a couple of entries in my journal and they speak to this. i would like to invite you to read those entries.

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