There is nothing wrong with you. I also get triggered when watching sex scenes. When we get triggered by these types of things it is because we have not processed the feelings from the abuse yet.

My abuse was violent so violent sex scenes will usually trigger me. When this happens I try to tap into the feelings that go along with the trigger. At first all I could feel was the fear but after a while I was able to feel all the other feelings like sadness, hurt and anguish. When I tapped into these feelings I was able to cry and let the feelings out. Sometimes anger was in there too so I would punch the punching bag (or pillow) and scream and yell. I got all the feelings out.

There were times when these scenes would stimulate me too and for those times I had to deal with shame. The shame that my body reacted in a positive way to something that was so painful and violent. For these feelings I would talk to my inner children explaining to them that the body is designed to react a certain way when touched a certain way. In time, the shame did go away and I was able to watch those scenes without shame.

Please know there is nothing wrong with you. You are a normal healthy beautiful person who had a very hurtful childhood.

Hang in there. You are not alone.

I can't stand sex scenes. I can't stand kissing scenes. I feel violated and disgusted by being asked to look at something that's supposed to be private, something I don't want to see. Inside, I feel furious. I basically won't watch, and I don't understand why it doesn't bother other people.

Like everyone else has said there is nothibg wrong with you. I can't even look at an older guys hands or I am triggered. Or scenes of rape, din sex triggers me also. It's part of the trauma that happened to us. It's good to recognize what triggers us so we can learn how to control it and calm ourselves. Be strong! Know you are a suvivor

I'm right there with you...I don't watch tons of TV or movies, but the one show I DVR to eat my dinner in front of every night is Days of Our Lives (my grandmother got me hooked when I was 6 lol). I have to fast forward through every romantic scene...see, I can't even type the proper word...
I think it is normal to be angry and jealous of people who can connect in a way that you can't because you are supposed to be able to, your body was designed to, and that was STOLEN from you. So, yes be angry about it. Someone took away a vital part of life from you...it's my understanding (my therapist says this) that one can get this part of their life back with time and the right partner...
You are not stupid...
Anna

I don't thnk everyone should be ok with watching sex scenes on tv. I have triggers with tv in general along with that. I do not have a tv. We watch it some on the holidays . It is very hard to watch it. I think sex is a wonderful thing. In the bonds of marriage. I do not feel it has to be apart of getting to know someone or try before you buy as my brother would say. I thought some people in my life actually liked me for me but they liked me for what they could do to me. I would never know. I wondered why they broke up with me. I believe God has a plan for every person and you do not have to give yourself away be comfortable watching things like that on tv. It was used to teach me things sexually to others and in a very bad way. Everyone expects you just to except its normal. I do not believe it is. I think we need to change our views of what love is and what is normal. What does the God and the bible says about it. John 3:16

Sugar bear
What I mean is I get upset that I can't just be comfortable with sex especially in a relationship. I have no problem with no strings attached sex. I am terrified of sex with someone I care about. So when I see it happen (even in a movie etc) I just feel bad.
I know you have a great deal of faith and that is what helps you. I am glad you have found something. Not that it will really matter to you but I am an atheist. I don't believe in a god the way you do so it makes no difference to me what this entity that you believe in thinks about sex.

It is completely normal to be triggered by these things. It's something we all have to learn to cope with to feel better about things. I have one that was the biggest ever. I will never forget. This was years ago after getting out and rebuilding myself. I was laughed at called a baby and everything. It's call forest gump. Only seen the movie once and I lost it from the time the girl ran to the field with forest to pray to god to turn her into a bird. Me and my sis did that. I never stopped crying the rest of the movie. It didn't help when he said to begin with that there father had to have been a loving man. Away kissing and touching Jenny and her sisters. It's just something we learn in therapy that we will never be like the main stream people. Sex is a touchy subject to me to. I don't watch porn love scenes in movies or like to watch Dr Phil unless it deals with me. It changes me and causes a tremendous amount of anxiety and paranoia. That's what makes us survivors. We can live to cope with it. I wish the best of luck in the future. This is tough to beat.

I have triggers all day long. I'm nervous around any male that reminds me of my uncle - he molested at my age of 6 -8. It w as every night and another uncle just watched. I wonder a lot if people think I'm strange b/c of my triggers. I know they do - who am I kidding lol. It has been many years I am in my 30s. I don't think it's fair that I have to go through this. I haven't had a great relationship with anyone in a log time. I haven't had great sex in a long time - maybe never lol. I figure I am just going to have to fight through it - stop being afraid. I think a lot has to do with fear. It really helps me when I do my yoga in the morning - the stretching and breathing helps. It helps to quiet my mind, pay attention to my feelings, and see what thoughts I am able to let go. this website helps.

I am not always triggered by love/sex scenes but when i am I turn into a jerk. Sometimes its not even sex scenes it can just be something romantic and i am set off.

Grasshopper , i think it is great that you aren't afraid to look at your feelings when they arise. I'm still in that run away, hide, suppress, stuff, do anything I can to avoid feelings.

Hi Cecil. I concur that there isn't anything wrong with you. I relate to your triggers because I never know what will be a trigger for me. Some sex scenes I can watch and others I have to either shut off the tv or leave the theater. I also relate to your "stuffing, hiding," etc. because I dissociate and repress as well. Unfortunately, I think that because of the abuse we experience, we never know when the effects will crop up again. I'm sorry you feel stupid, angry and/or jealous for being uncomfortable about sex, but you are not alone. Maybe we can figure out how to get past that together?