Don't feel guilty for "abandoning" him.
He earned that, don't you think?

If he needed help with is homework that bad, he REALLY should have thought twice about sexually assaulting you.

I Don't see this as abandonment. Instead I see it as being respectful to your own feelings. Like stated, he earned it, he choose to do what he did to you, you only choose what was right for you, saving yourself.

Thank you hylierandom and walkingbuf... It is just difficult because I had been friends with him for 8 years before this.

I know it hurts to like and trust someone for so many years whom you tutored but also considered a friend only to have him take advantage. of and abuse you for 7 months. In doing, he violated your boundaries and betrayed your trust. In short, he ceased being your friend and became your abuser. I dk all the circumstances but you cut all contact with him which was the most healthy and appropriate thing you could do.
For him to now accuse you of "abandoning" his is laughable and blatant manipulation. No..he ceased being your friend and abandoned the "friendship" the day he first turned your friendship into a means of gratifying his sexual needs.he's now trying to manipulate you again by guilt tripping you with this "abandonment" nonsense. Why would you want to retain a friendship of someone who abused you? Or feel any guilt for putting a stop to it? Given his actions you owe him nothiing. It sounds like your feeling guilty for taking care of yourself. Why? He abandoned the friendship and your trust when he sexualized it, something you didn't want or ask for. Step back and look at this...he takes advantage of you for months, something you didn't want to be happening. It finally ends and you feel guilty for getting away from someone who abused you? I'd expect you to be angry or sad maybe about losing a friend but certainly not guilty and that you're the bad person.

If he was such a good friend, he would have respected you more. What he did to you is wrong. You aren't abandoning him, you are taking care of yourself and that's really important. It might be hard now, but in the long-run...it really is the healthier choice.

Thank you sadave46 for shedding a little more light on this. I am angry at him and I am sad as well, but I also have just a whole flood of emotions. And thank you aperfectm...

It's hard to accept that our trust has been completely misplaced, when someone sexually abuses us. It's a big loss. You have done the right thing to cut contact, he is being a jerk after being a perpetrator.

ArisingFromTheAshes,

I read "confusion" in your post.

Why are you overlooking the fact that this 'friend' sexually abused you for seven months? What is that less important than the guilt you feel?

I admire your respect for friendship but friendship is a two-way street. He ceased being your friend when he sexually abused you and then turned the tables to make it your fault for leaving him "...on his own."

You did NOT overreact; you did what any self-loving person would have done and that's to get out of harms way. There is no question in my mind that this 'friend' is a manipulating predator. Keep your distance...unless you don't mind being used and abused.

xx
SuzA

Do not believe that for one second. He is just trying to make you feel guilty. He chose to abuse you and you chose to make a right decision. I would keep him out of your life and don't let him back in. I have known people all my life and had to cut ties to heal and realize that they have never had good intentions towards me . I was told everything was my fault growing up that reletionships and things that were undone were my fault it was all a lie. I am learning a lot of things that were just what they wanted me to believe so I would feel guilty. Stay strong and stay confident in your choice.