Awe sweetie, hugs. I have those really vivid dreams too. Wish I had some answers on how to make them go away to give ya. Hopefully someone will have some. I understand what that's like. Hugs. If you ever need to talk jus holler at me.

I have had these really vivid dreams also... and its so hard to get them out of your mind. I am having trouble with recurring dreams at the moment of being abused. It is not fair that we have to put up with this... Its awful. I hope that the bad dreams stop soon... hugs!

I hate those dreams it's such a pain that they leave you feeling funny the next day.

i also have these dreams. it feels like your being punished. it's the minds way of helping you deal with things, awful i know, especially when sometimes they're so vivid you relive everything. wish i could help all of us :( big hugs x x

I have had vivid dreams, nightmares and I wake up feeling strange, like I am not fully there mentally. As the day progresses I do feel better. My last dream a few weeks ago I thought I had cancer and was showing everyone around me the open hole in my chest. When I woke up I immediately thought this is the wound I have carried on the inside of me for many years and now it is on the outside where everyone can see it. Dreams in my opinion are symbolic of what are am presently feeling.

yes.... i dont really ever sleep....

ugh i hate them so much they make me so depressed and i feel so nasty. i end up hateing myself like all day and ugh it's so hard to be in school and try and be happy. i hardly ever sleep i'm alway's up just layign in my bed or i come on here which prolly doesn't help much because it's keeping me awake ugh idk what to do. but thank you guy's. atleast now i know i'm not the only one.

try writing them down. your subconscious is tryingto tell you something but if you contain it somehow like by writing it down (and keeping it somewhere safe) then your subconscious knows you've listened and maybe it will let up on the dreams a little. but I usually avoid writing them down cause it brings stuff up. but in the end it makes me feel better it's just too scary sometimes. so I might take a week to bring myself to actually write it down but then it goes away. cause its not inside me anymore

I used to have nightmares a lot about what happened. They really bothered me at first, like I tried not to sleep at all so I'd never have nightmares, but then I didn't mind so much because they told me a little bit more about what happened, and I was sick of not knowing.

Acceptance is key. Accept what your brother did and anyone else, accept the fact that your reactions are completely normal. Understand that all those dreams are normal, I promise after you stop fighting the fact that you have those dreams they will start to go away. One technique that helps is to wake up and finish the dream in your conscious mind. Think of where the dream left off and then process it with your current strength, your current life and current situation. Ask yourself, "then what", "then what happened", "then what would I do", then what could I do if I was even stronger", and keep going until you've rewritten the dream entirely to where you're a hero, super woman and he wouldn't ever even try to do that again with you or anyone else. does that make sense? message me if it doesn't or if you have questions. The technique really does work and before you know it, the nightmares of any kind aren't such a downer anymore, they become an opportunity for you to become your own hero.

mother- yes that does make sense thank you.

and thank you to everyone else.i hate having these dreams and they make me just want to throw up sometimes. the next i feel so horrible so nasty.

I hate those dreams so much.

I don't have them much anymore, but occasionally I'lll wake up in the middle of the night screaming and scaring the crap out of my boyfriend.

One of the things that I have done that might have helped is to not sleep until you're so exhausted that you pass out. Then again, that's not very healthy, but it kinda works.

I can't sleep without a tv on because if I don't hear noises in my sleep, I drift off to abuse land. Honestly, I hate being in a quiet room because of it.

i can't do that because i have sports and school that it's hard to do both of them when i so tired and i usually have stuff goign on in the mornings that i would only get a few hours of sleep and i can't do that.

with me i can sleep no matter what but i usually sleep with nothing like no tv or music..i like it to be quite so i can hear things idk it's weird but i just want to be able to hear if someone is comming. even tho i know there prolly wont ever be anyone comming but i just need to make sure

You are not nasty or horrible the abuse was. it's not your fault it's not your fault. I've done a lot with dreams and it seems like when I deal with them, they change and I end up dreaming similar stuff but different because this time I do better in the situation than I did in the previous dream. Plus I'm able now to wake myself up sometimes. But mine don't have a whole lot of actual vivid abuse because I don't remember it. I look at them as warnings which help me understand why I have certain feelings about my mom or grandparents. That said, I definitely have been avoiding going to bed. it works when I am just trying to take a nap better, cause then I don't admit to myself that I'm putting myself to bed. Well anyway, for you I would suggest medicine like seroquel