Sexual Abuse Support Group
Sexual abuse is a relative cultural term used to describe sexual relations and behavior between two or more parties which are considered criminally and/or morally offensive. Different types of sexual abuse involve: Non-consensual, forced physical sexual behavior such as rape, incest or sexual assault, or psychological forms of abuse, such as verbal sexual behavior or...
I was talking to a friend a while ago and we were joking about my sex drive and how it's so surprising that I am still a virgin. I've never done more then kissed a guy, exept when I was younger.
When I was younger my mom was sick, my dad worked all the time and my sisters had school. My mom had a friend that would watch me in the morning and take me to pre school with her son that was my age. Sometimes I would come over after school and we would just play. We would go in his room and play with cars or go outside and shoot hoops.
I don't really remember the first time we did more then just innocently fool around, but I remember some occurences. Once he locked his bedroom door and we went on the otherside of his bed so just in case anyone walked in they wouldn't see us. We started kissing, like we always did but this time he told me to take off my pants. I did and he started kissing me down there. I remember just feeling strange, not really knowing why he was doing what he was doing. Then he took off his pants and told me to kiss him. I had never seen a penis before and honestly at first I was scared, but I did what he asked me to do.
There was another time when his family was looking for a new house and while his parents were talking to the realitor they told us we could play. We found a closet to hide in and we played "cats". He told me he wanted to kiss like cats. He put his tongue in my mouth and we made out for a while. Eventually he told me to lay down. He took all my clothes off and started licking me "like a cat". After a while I told him I wanted to put my clothes back on and he let me. We started kissing again then he put his hands down my pants. Shortly after he started rubbing on me, his brother found us. He threatened to tell their parents that we were kissing (I don't think he saw his hand down my pants) but after five minutes of pitiful begging he left us alone.
I know it happened more then those few times but I only remember little bits and peices of those times.
When I told my friend about this she told me that I was sexually abused. I know we were young, but everything we did was consentual. I have always just thought of it as a more intense childhood story of 'show me yours, I'll show you mine'.
I still go to school with the boy, but we don't talk. I'm not even sure if he remembers I went over to his house.
Personally, I do not think I was sexually abused. But is it possible that being exposed to those mature activities at such a young age could be a type of abuse? I've never really opened up about his and I would really appreciate your advice, opinions or comments. Thank youu.
When I was younger my mom was sick, my dad worked all the time and my sisters had school. My mom had a friend that would watch me in the morning and take me to pre school with her son that was my age. Sometimes I would come over after school and we would just play. We would go in his room and play with cars or go outside and shoot hoops.
I don't really remember the first time we did more then just innocently fool around, but I remember some occurences. Once he locked his bedroom door and we went on the otherside of his bed so just in case anyone walked in they wouldn't see us. We started kissing, like we always did but this time he told me to take off my pants. I did and he started kissing me down there. I remember just feeling strange, not really knowing why he was doing what he was doing. Then he took off his pants and told me to kiss him. I had never seen a penis before and honestly at first I was scared, but I did what he asked me to do.
There was another time when his family was looking for a new house and while his parents were talking to the realitor they told us we could play. We found a closet to hide in and we played "cats". He told me he wanted to kiss like cats. He put his tongue in my mouth and we made out for a while. Eventually he told me to lay down. He took all my clothes off and started licking me "like a cat". After a while I told him I wanted to put my clothes back on and he let me. We started kissing again then he put his hands down my pants. Shortly after he started rubbing on me, his brother found us. He threatened to tell their parents that we were kissing (I don't think he saw his hand down my pants) but after five minutes of pitiful begging he left us alone.
I know it happened more then those few times but I only remember little bits and peices of those times.
When I told my friend about this she told me that I was sexually abused. I know we were young, but everything we did was consentual. I have always just thought of it as a more intense childhood story of 'show me yours, I'll show you mine'.
I still go to school with the boy, but we don't talk. I'm not even sure if he remembers I went over to his house.
Personally, I do not think I was sexually abused. But is it possible that being exposed to those mature activities at such a young age could be a type of abuse? I've never really opened up about his and I would really appreciate your advice, opinions or comments. Thank youu.
Lots and lots of kids do the same sorts of things, and yes, at a young age. There are cases where a child is abused and then acts out on siblings or friends, but there's usually an age or power difference and the abuse is non-concentual. You sound like a perfectly well adjusted young lady who played doctor a few times like millions of others.
The key issue is how it made you feel. If you feel dirty or used, or like you were a "bad girl" then you should probably discuss the incidents with a therapist. If it's just a memory and you're fine with it don't sweat it.