You will heal in your own time, you will feel like that sometimes but dont try to force yourself to talk about it if your not ready to.

i know i will heal in my own time but idk what it is but when i'm asked a question i feel like i have to answer. she just waite's for me to answer and so i do and it's really hard and i hate it. i don't want to talk about it ever.

I am so sorry that this is so hard for you. While you are there take it ease. Remember, she is there for you. To help you. Try thinking of her as something different. Someone you can talk to. Be patient.

hi kayrl
i feel like that when my counsellor starts asking me questions. she actually let me write down a outline of what happen shes been trying hard to get me talk more about it i want to cry an say that person isnt me an cry but im so use to showing this hard front shes so patient an i so much want to talk to her an get guidance ive let it eat me up for so long now that i dont want to contiune to let these take over my life. my heart goes out to u hu stay strong x

you feel the emotions you need to. you dont cut yourself or hurt yourself in anyway. push forward and it will get easier. i wish you the best.

Remember your counselor is working for you. You are the one in charge. If she asks you something you don't want to answer just say you don't feel comfortable talking about it.

Therapy can be a good place to practice setting boundaries and developing healthy relationships.

I don't particularly like therapy either. I'm a really private person. But it has helped me a lot when I've found the right therapist.

If she doesn't respect your boundaries then move on to someone who does.

Maybe journaling through the book Courage to Heal will make it easier instead of having to say it out loud to another person. I do that and the talk counseling, I need both, and now they are sending me to a psychiatrist for post traumatic stress disorder and anxiety, I also wonder if it will ever end. But I have spoken with alot of survivors and it ends eventually for everyone, I hope the best for you.

you don't have to talk about ab*se every time you go, you know. you can start with something else. it is true however, that it is sharing it aloud with someone, feeling what you felt then, and being in a safe and supportive, caring, trusting environment when that happens that helps bring about change. tell your t. how you are struggling, you are just getting started, and prob. breaking all the old rules of secrecy and denial...it won't always be this hard, and you are doing the right thing!
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Remember that you can only go as fast as you can. If they don't pay attention or do things you like, you need to speak up. Counselors don't always like their paients to plan things. Mine tends to let me tell her what I need, but she does put up resistance when she doesn't agree. This is something I try to talk to her about when it happens.

You should always feel safe there. If you hate it or you don't feel safe. You either don't have the right one or you are not ready.

Please continue to try to find someone who works for you.

SA