i get that a lot. i like to go on msn, yahoo, aim, etc. usually for comfort from other people like me, telling me that things will be okay.

but a lot of the time it's people just "looking for a good time". it's disgusting. everything starts off okay. "hi" "hey" "how're you tonight?" "fine, thanks, and yourself?" "i'm horny" "i'd rather not talk about stuff like that" "aw, playing hard to get? i like that"...

almost every guy that i chat with is like that. i don't even need to explain. it's somewhat irritating. i wish guys would stop thinking with their "head" and start thinking with their hearts or SOMETHING!

it drives me crazy sometimes...

I am fine with sex but can understand. Sex isn't something that NEEDS to be talked about, so if you are uncomfortable than people shouldn't be talking to you about it especially once you tell them you don't want to talk about it.

The simple thing to do is not talk to those people anymore, there are plenty of people that are just looking for friends and if you tell them not to talk about that subject won't.

I am not comfortable talking about sex in certain circumstances and if people won't stop than i just stop talking to them. For instance I am fine if my friends have a problem and need to talk about it but if they just want to tell me about their intimate life I won't listen

it is a known fact that it can be turned off if you want it to. after my seperation and ultimate divorce I went three years without any desire for sex. after the abuse i went 2 years before i wanted sex again. the mind can be trained to do anything. i know a lot people will tell me and have said I am full of it.

Celibacy is choice and many people make it.

for what it is worth.

I'm fine with it if it's a real life friend wanting to tak about intimate problems and things like that, but anyone else is a no no. I only use msn to talk to friends anyway..

I play SecondLife, and a lot of guys keep hitting on me even after I tell them why I don't want them to. It's really rude and obnoxious. I have a lot of people blocked from talking to me because of it.

One of my friends (she is only 47) has been celibate for 9yrs. by choice. Not from abuse just refuses to have sex just to be having it.
Me personally, I wish my hubby would get erectile dysfunction so I would never have to do it again. I sometimes wonder (married 14yrs) if would be better for both of us just to get a divorce so he could have a "normal" wife and I could finally not have to stress if he is going to "bother" me for sex tonight.

That all depends on what you define as sex. Sex with another person, sexual gratification using a sex toy or just simple masturbation.

I know a few girls that just aren't interested in sex but not because they were sex abuse victims...they're just focused on other things like their career and don't want the distraction.