like other forms of sexual abuse, survivors tend to either be repulsed by sex, or obssessed with it. i think the problem lies, and the issues arise not so much in finding a middle ground (although that is DEFINITELY important), but in abstaining from or engaging in, sex for healthy reasons... thanks for your post; i hope you get more "knowledgeable" replies than mine. however, i am here for you if you need to "talk" this through some more.

Another reason for this that you may not be aware of is that some go so far as to re~abuse themselves using sex as a form of self injury. That was my reason for the overdrive;

The two reactions most common in those that have been sexually abused are hyposexuality, which means the survivor tries to completely avoid sex, and hypersexuality, in which the survivor tends to seek out a lot of sex. It takes some serious thinking and analysis of your motives to find out why you have an overactive sex drive, and for me, it was very beneficial to become celibate until I figured it out and now until I am more advanced in my recovery.

I feel the same way. It's like I don't even want to get to know these men. Actually I am talking about this very subject with someone in a chat. She just said something that really helped me. She said after she got raped she slept around just like I had told her that I'm doing. And she said it's like trying to recreate the situation only your in control. I dono.... but I am totally feelin what youre saying. I'm the same way right now.

I'm a very sexual person, much more than most others in the way of the things I like to do and am just generally a bit obsessive. But I don't see it as a problem. You don't HAVE to have a middle ground because its normal. I'm learning now that our experiences shape us and sometimes things that are abnormal can still be ok.
If your not ok with it then you should chat with it to a councellor.

I wonder if another possibility is that you are trying to regain a feeling of control.
I think the other reasons you come up with could very well be true too.
I had a bad relationship with my ex and I wanted to have sex with other guys to diminish the memory of sex with my ex and to not have the last sexual memory to be the one with my ex. I didnt actually go through with it and my ex was the last person I was with.
I think also you may be having lots of sex to make it meaningless. If the act of sex becomes meaningless to you then maybe you hope the rape will become meaningless, if that makes sense. Like the shame and pain you may feel deep inside will go away.
As to what to do about it, I dont know. Have you had therapy? Somehow you need to deal with the past in a healthier way. You deserve to have a loving, respectful sex life. I dont think there is anything wrong with sleeping around but I think, like you say, its your way of trying to heal from the past.
I hope somehow you can work through this.

Read the other replies and they all make sense but I'm just replying to your post...NO x