Yes it sure can. Being intimate with someone can be very triggering. You are not alone in this one. As you go through your healing process you will heal those parts who find it so triggering. As they heal it will become easier to be intimate and be present while you are being intimate with your partner.

Actually, my abuse has led me to sexualise ANYTHING and can easily get paranoid about stuff.

Most definitely it can. I deal with that alot.

Me too - both ways ...

yes this does happen. the best way to deal with it is to get to know your own body - it's needs and wants - what touches are good and if any are triggers (like if a man goes straight too my breasts or nether regions I am instantly turned off). ask your girlfriend to be patient with you and spent some time with each other with some touching that doesn't lead to sex so there is no pressure to orgasm, just enjoying each others bodies. Take a long leisurely bath together with essential oils and candles and just totally relax, talking and just being. If you can be intimate mentally and comfortable with the person and comfortable with yourself the rest will naturally follow. trust your body beautiful and your beautiful sefl and you will have some wonderful times. good luck with it. big hugs.

Thank you guys so much. I feel less alone and like a freak. Irishwriter, my girlfriend is a survivor as well so she has no problems accommodating me and always asks what I want. I just honestly don't know. I've never had to think of my wants sexually. LuckyEmpath thanks for that I do seem to be getting better at staying in the moment. Desigol1979, I think my girlfriend is more like you. She has issues of course but not a lack of libido. KAdunn and donnawanda how do you deal with it?
I suppose my.biggest problem is getting myself to think of what I want. It's such a foreign concept. I think automatically during sex my go to is to just get the other person off. I don't know why.

I know you feel, Wolvenhause. I've only recently realized that my prior thinking of myself as some sort of sexual cavalier was only masking the emptiness or emotionally neediness that I felt after having sex.
I'm finally opening up and realizing that, like Desigol, I tend to sexualize everything. And this means like irishwriter says, to get to know your own body. Really. And this is really strange for me as a male. Especially a male who played sports and was brought up in a very Machismo culture.
I would suggest trying these two books. They are great and include important exercises to practice with your partner and with yourself (yeah, that's right, I had no idea that you can actually have a fulfilling and romantic date with yourself!):

The Survivor's Guide to Sex: How to Have an Empowered Sex Life After Child Sexual Abuse by Staci Haines

The Sexual Healing Journey: A Guide for Survivors of Sexual Abuse by Wendy Maltz

I realize now that my sexuality is not an uncontrollable force or urge that overpowers me, but that my sexuality is a healthy and important part of my core personhood.

Diddo everyone! Getting to know your body is hard! But it can be a great learning and healing experience.

I can share that I was numb for the first 10 years of my marriage. I couldn't feel my husband touch my skin. My numbness almost destroyed my marriage. I am so thankful for a fabulous therapist who was patient with me. It took me a year and a half of really focusing on my husbands hands touching my skin and allowing the thoughts to come and go. It is possible to take that control back. I find meditation helps. I will preface that I hated meditation at first because it triggered nightmares and excessive painful thoughts but the more I leaned into it and processed through it with my therapist the easier it has become. I have been married 16 years and do not struggle with intimacy anymore!!!!

Thanks ADC024 for the book suggestions! I haven't heard of the first one.

One I read in grad school was "A Celebration of Sex" by Rosenau it is actually one my husband and I used together to help me find positions and ways we enjoyed together. This was FUN!!!

Praying for you!

Um...I think it affected me in the opposite direction, I think I'm a lot more sexual than I would have naturally been.

Certainly more sexual than a lot of people.