It is absolutely your right to tell the nurse you do not want her interrupting you to give you pills while you are using the commode. Ask her to respect your privacy. Is there a counselor/therapist you can talk to at the hospital about how to cope when you are triggered?

I am seeing a therapist to help deal with every thing that is happening to me
I have noticed in the past it is other survivors that seem to know what helps as they are the ones that have to deal with things
so in a sence learning how to deal with flash backs and being trigged no matter what causes them is what I am going to have to learn.
the only problem is it happens daily as I can not get away from the personal care

Is there anyway that you can try to psychologically prepare yourself ahead of time? To know that washing up is a trigger, allowing yourself time to have those memories for say 5 mins. and then diving into a task like reading (not trigger books) or looking up stupid you tube videos, making a phone call, or anything else that you can do to try and brake away from that train of thought. Try to schedule something to do right after your done washing and be consistant. You could also try to journal right afterwards so those thoughts and feelings have a place to go even if it's just into the trash can. And if your nurse doesn't respect your rights tell her supervisor.

Thanks
I do use my pc once they get me up but I think I will get some music or a movie on during it might help me to get my mind off of what is happening.
I think it is more the helpless feeling that reminds me of being a helpless kid
I talked to the nurse today about this and she told me that I can tell them to stop at any time that I am in control of what happens to my body and if I need a brake part way through I can.
I thought that was very nice of her
I also only get female nurses