Sexual Abuse Support Group
Sexual abuse is a relative cultural term used to describe sexual relations and behavior between two or more parties which are considered criminally and/or morally offensive. Different types of sexual abuse involve: Non-consensual, forced physical sexual behavior such as rape, incest or sexual assault, or psychological forms of abuse, such as verbal sexual behavior or...
I am trying to put behind me what happened to me when I was growing up, I was sexually abused by a family friend for about 5 and half years it stopped because he was moving away and couldn't get me on my own any more. I just feel so ashamed and dirty because of what he did I now suffer from depression and I am angry all the time it is so easy for someone to upset me that I just can't up myself it has started to effect my job. But I haven't told anybody what happened to me because when I told my parents they didn't believe me I just really need some advice on how to cope with everything that's going on.
Anger is a big part of the healing process and it is important to allow yourself to release it in healthy ways. This can be done by:
*Writing - write out your anger and then rip it up and/or burn it (or keep it if that works best for you)
*Rip up a phone book or anything that is as thick as a phone book.
*Punch a pillow - I actually bought a body size pillow and drew a head and neck on it. I strangled that pillow, kicked it, punched it, threw it against the wall....I mutilated it.
*Scream and yell into a pillow - I actually did a lot of my screaming and yelling in the car.
*Cry - crying does actually release anger so if you feel the tears coming let them flow
All of these methods are safe for you and will assure that you don't displace your anger and take it out on others - as it sounds like this may be happening at your work. When you are working with any of these methods make sure you are focused on who you are angry with.
I actually bought a punching bag and would punch that when the anger surfaced. I would scream at the abuser and imagine it was him I was hitting. I actually do not like to hit but I did do it in order to get the anger out of me.
If you are not working with a therapist I would urge you to do so because the healing process can be quite daunting and a good therapist can help you sort through it all and will justify your feelings.
Take care