Sexual Abuse Support Group

Sexual abuse is a relative cultural term used to describe sexual relations and behavior between two or more parties which are considered criminally and/or morally offensive. Different types of sexual abuse involve: Non-consensual, forced physical sexual behavior such as rape, incest or sexual assault, or psychological forms of abuse, such as verbal sexual behavior or...

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ineedyou137 01/25/2009

the truth when i was younger i actually enjoyed...it
i am so disgusted in myself that i actually liked it and i didnt want it to happen but i did
and its like the last time(he always asked) i said straight up no
usually i said i didnt care
and i feel so disgusted that i didnt say no it makes me want to throw up!!
i cant stand it!
so my question is
am i wrong, was it my fault?

deleted_user 01/25/2009

No your not wrong but I do strongly suggest talking about this with a licensed professional. This can eat at you for a long time and nothing good will come of it. HUGS : )

deleted_user 01/25/2009

Hi,
Let me start by saying that you are not alone. You are also not disgusting, or weird, or a freak. I don't even know you and I can tell you that much!
Our bodies are trained to respond to touch, even if our minds are saying it's a touch we didn't want. It was your physical body responding to the stimulation, not your mind. You probably feel like your body betrayed you, and that's normal.
Are you wrong? No, absolutely not.
Was it your fault? NO, DEFINITELY NOT.
Nothing you could have done would make it your fault. It doesn't even matter that you said you didn't care, it's still the fault of your attacker.
I agree with terh, you should try to get a therapist or a counselor ot help you out with this stuff, they can be so very helpful. It is difficult to get through alone.
Feel free to message me anytime, best of luck!
love,
noni

deleted_user 01/25/2009

No it was NOT your fault. Sometimes it happens that the abused have some kind of pleasure from their abuse, the thing is we dont understand what is happening and if the abuser uses a technique to bring the abused some pleasure this just confuses the situation.So NO it is not your fault and no you were not wrong. There are many ways an abuser approaches victims/survivors. I was abused by an old man and he performed oral sex on me I hated that my body reacted the way it did. I have never truly told this story. I was scared of him and also of my other abuser who passed me on for a while so he could get my mum to move back with him. When she moved back the original abuser continued to abuse for many years after. He did nothing to make it pleasurable and I am thankful for that. I know I am repeating myself but NO you were not at fault or to blame. Hugs Sharon

ineedyou137 01/26/2009

thanks for all of ur replys!
it was so hard o come out and say that and knowing that people are letting me know it wasnt my fault feels....hmm what the word....i guess amazing, relieved, i dnt kno
but thank u all so much!

deleted_user 01/26/2009

hey i also asked this in a post - was it our fault-was it? perhaps it was only the attention you ever had? i don't know the answer babe , we must work it out. i know that. xxxxxx

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