Sexual Abuse Support Group

Sexual abuse is a relative cultural term used to describe sexual relations and behavior between two or more parties which are considered criminally and/or morally offensive. Different types of sexual abuse involve: Non-consensual, forced physical sexual behavior such as rape, incest or sexual assault, or psychological forms of abuse, such as verbal sexual behavior or...

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Jas8 04/26/2017

I was molested by my father from the age of 9- 12 off and on.... GOD it feels good to be able to say that instead of holding it in. I became withdrawn, I used to sit in class and wonder if this happened to everyone. I knew it wasn't right, it felt wrong and I was afraid. I remember thinking this was my father I'm supposed to do what he says and of I don't I'll be in trouble. He would give my sisters and I baths, washing them first and sending them out touch me and make me touch him. I remember everything always hurt or burned. I hated it. But I never spoke up. My mom came home early one day and saw him. They divorced because of it. Even though it was years ago it still haunts me. I have nightmares, panic attacks, and I don't trust older men I am not interested in sex at all. I shy away and that probably makes me a target. But what hurts me even more is that I think my niece was molested and I missed all the signs. Although I had no physical proof and she doesn't know she was molested because he molested her from birth. Yet I didn't help her I missed the signs I didn't get proof. I hate myself for that.

hopefulmama 04/26/2017

We all miss the signs,hell my daughter was in therapy for anxiety and her therapist missed the signs. You are not to blame,they are,they did this to children,they are evil.But you do unfortunately have the ability to help your niece,you have been there and you know what that pain and guilt are like.You will be there for her if she needs you.You can't change the past but you can make a difference in the future!

Jas8 04/26/2017

I don't know how or what to do. She is not my blood but I've been there since birth. So she is attached to me but her mother and her mother's sister and brother have pulled her away from me because I ran out of money that was the extent of their love for me. my niece doesn't understand it and she is very smart. they try to make her believe I mistreated her or them but even she tells them it's not true and she is only 6. I feel so sorry for her and this man is still around acting as if he has done nothing when he has manipulated so many. Even me yet I don't know how to walk away from it all and it's slowly killing me.

WallbrownF 04/26/2017

I would like to express how sorry I am that you were in that situation and I am glad that you've found the forum to search for answers. I also feel that I need to caveat my statements by saying that I'm not a professional, but it isn't your fault. None of it is your fault. All you can do is try to heal yourself and be there for your niece, if you can, and try to do what you can when you can. Have you sought help for yourself? Love & Hugs

Jas8 04/26/2017

Thank you. I am working on getting help. When I talk about seeing a therapist ppl tell me not to. I have decided to go against what they say and get help. I eventually want to be able to help others. Thank you for the love. ♥

WallbrownF 04/27/2017

I'm glad to hear that you are working on getting professional help. They are telling you not to see a therapist because the social norm about seeing a therapist is that you are crazy. But, everyone could benefit from talking to a therapist. ♥

Grasshopper_7 04/28/2017

Before I login to the this sight I watched George Michael perform "poppa was a Rollin stone"! This was the first post I saw: "All I ever wanted was a father." I'm sorry your father did those awful things to you. Therapy or journal and yoga/meditate or exercise has helped me to let go of the tension that built up from the trauma over time.

WallbrownF 05/01/2017

I think all of those things are great ideas, if one is open to them. Yoga and mediation were not really options for me until I opened up to the possibility of them. Therapy has just been this things that I didn't really think I needed (not that I wasn't open to it if I thought I needed it) until I found myself in the situation that I'm in now with my wife. Journaling has never really worked for me because I won't be consistent. I think writing on here is helpful for me.

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