Sexual Abuse Support Group
Sexual abuse is a relative cultural term used to describe sexual relations and behavior between two or more parties which are considered criminally and/or morally offensive. Different types of sexual abuse involve: Non-consensual, forced physical sexual behavior such as rape, incest or sexual assault, or psychological forms of abuse, such as verbal sexual behavior or...
Hi,
Ummmm okay so I have put on here that i was sexually abused when i was a child. It has been 17 years since the first time he did what he did. The abuse he did was from when i was 6-8 years old. I didn't say anything, i didn't tell anyone, it was my fault I was attack. It was my fault that i didn't stop him. How do I accept it how do i accept that i wasn't at fault. He told me it was my fault. That I was the reason he wanted me.
How can i accept it? he raped me, he stabbed me, he
its my fault im sorry it is all my fault.
I hear him, I can feel him, I can smell him. It feels like he is still here and telling me things are suppose to like this..........
Ummmm okay so I have put on here that i was sexually abused when i was a child. It has been 17 years since the first time he did what he did. The abuse he did was from when i was 6-8 years old. I didn't say anything, i didn't tell anyone, it was my fault I was attack. It was my fault that i didn't stop him. How do I accept it how do i accept that i wasn't at fault. He told me it was my fault. That I was the reason he wanted me.
How can i accept it? he raped me, he stabbed me, he
its my fault im sorry it is all my fault.
I hear him, I can feel him, I can smell him. It feels like he is still here and telling me things are suppose to like this..........
Bottom line:
- should you have been able to trust this person to guide you if things were 'normal'; if 'yes' then you did what a child was suppoed to do (trust) and they broke that trust ...
- did they use force; if yes, then they failed to respect your body. Even a child knows that it is wrong to force another child ... they may not understand all the consequences, but they know it is wrong
As per your reaction; fear and uncertainty are strong motivators when we are children. It takes great parents to help us overcome these natural emotions. Do not beat yourself now for being a normal child back then ... that is what the perp preyed on ... he counted on it ...
That covers most SA cases as a child. At your age & even from what you write ... you know it's not your fault.
What I hear is that his words are still hurting you, as are his actions. This is the truth of what you are feeling, as I understand it. I'm sorry that there is nothing we can do, visiting a therapist can often help you through this.
All the best,