Sexual Abuse Support Group

Sexual abuse is a relative cultural term used to describe sexual relations and behavior between two or more parties which are considered criminally and/or morally offensive. Different types of sexual abuse involve: Non-consensual, forced physical sexual behavior such as rape, incest or sexual assault, or psychological forms of abuse, such as verbal sexual behavior or...

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tazgore
tazgore
This is my first entry. I am sitting here crying while i write becouse it is so hard to admit what has happend. First of all I am a 39 year old male. I have told my story to my wife, my brother, my mother, and my theripist. I have read that support groups are very helpful. I can only assume that everyone here already has an idea of the emotions that are raging in my head. I was sexually assulted when i was 6 years old. it happend just once. I told know one. I had kept it a secret for 33 years. everyone in this group right now is a stranger to me, yet here i am about to bare my soul.
What am i supposed to do here? how dose this work? Should i write down my story and share it? should i..
I don't know.
deleted_user
deleted_user
you do what you are ready to do if you want to write your story then do, no one is here to force you to do anything you are not ready to do. we are here to support each other though and you are welcome here. hugs
deleted_user
deleted_user
Exactly...do what you feel comfortable with. I haven't really talked about any issues yet, but reading others struggles and giving my support helps me resolve my own stuff in a way.

You don't necessarily have to tell your story, unless you need to. It depends on what phase of recovery you are in. You may be okay to just look for support and advice on recovery from sexual assault.....

But, often when someone hasn't ever really faced what happened to them and dealt with it, then it is almost necessary to tell the story just to get it off of your chest and out of your mind.

You should think on it a while. Decide what you think will help you the most. Weigh how you will be feeling after writing it by doing a test run--writing your story on WordPerfect or sometihng--then decide if you want to put it here--you can always cut and copy.

Hope that helps. Congratulations on taking a step toward recovery. I've only been using this site a short while on my own, and it's already been strengthening for me.
RobynY
RobynY
Hi there! Knowing where to start is always hard. There is no one answer. Some post their stories, some write them in their journals, some never reveal. It depends on what you need. Personally, I put it in a journal. I had to get it all out there and see if after people saw the whole of it, they could still see the good in me. It was a wonderful experience because I received so much support. This is also a great place to ask questions about the effects. For myself, the effects were a myriad - self harm, numbness, arousal when I was afraid, etc. It is wonderful to be able to speak of these things to others that understand. Finally, this is a wonderful place to read. Read through the discussions. Anyone who strikes you as someone who would understand, message them. They may have more on a journal. That is where I have found a large amount of the help I have received here. I wish you the best! You can get better and many people will be here for you to help you on this path.
deleted_user
deleted_user
It is hard taz, however it is definately a step in the healing process. There is a journal area in your profile and you can start there. You can put down your story in print and that itself is hard but is definately a place to start. Other members can respond and give advice or encouragement. It is definately a way for other members to get to know you.

You can start topics to discuss whenever you want and you can respond to others topics.

This is a very helpful site because we all know your pain. We are survivors of sexual abuse, rape and molestation.

Welcome to the group and I hope you will find friends here as well as encouragement and advice!!

With love!