Sexual Abuse Support Group

Sexual abuse is a relative cultural term used to describe sexual relations and behavior between two or more parties which are considered criminally and/or morally offensive. Different types of sexual abuse involve: Non-consensual, forced physical sexual behavior such as rape, incest or sexual assault, or psychological forms of abuse, such as verbal sexual behavior or...

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CrimsonTears
CrimsonTears
im always told i need to move on, i need to live life n leave the past in the past. im only hurting myself. maybe they are right but they arent in my head they dont see what i see hear what i hear feel vwhat i feel they'll never know exactly how i feel because no one has had the exact things happen to them i dont know anymore
deleted_user
deleted_user
It is hard to move on without confronting the horrors. I have yet to move on and just feel like I want revenge for the perportrators. They took my body and soul and how do you get it back? I have flashbacks to both abusers and they are horrendous. Everything is magnified except for me, I am tiny, and everything else is hugely out of proportion, that's what it does to you. I try and send my head to my favourite place, the beach, but the flashbacks still come. I don't know how to stop them.
deleted_user
deleted_user
That is a common response from many people in my life. I have learned who to talk to and who not to talk to. Lots of people just don't understand.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Move on? Let the past stay in the past? Whoever is telling you this has never had to deal with PTSD or trauma from sexual abuse. If only it were that easy!! I think the only way to move on is to go through your past, process those memories, preferable with the help of a counselor or therapist, and get through the recovery process. That takes time, work, patience, strength and courage. And it does NOT happen overnight.
No, probably none of us have had the EXACT things happen to us, as each experience is as unique as the person it happened to. However, many of us here have been through enough that we DO know what you are feeling and we DO know the gist of what is going on in your head. And we know that it is not easy in the least to deal with, not for any of us.
CrimsonTears, you are not alone here. And we will support you. And I encourage you to keep fighting and working towards your own recovery. It is worth it. YOU are worth it! And try to ignore those that would minimize the effects the abuse had on you by telling you to move on. If it were that easy, we all wouldn't be here on this site!