Sexual Abuse Support Group

Sexual abuse is a relative cultural term used to describe sexual relations and behavior between two or more parties which are considered criminally and/or morally offensive. Different types of sexual abuse involve: Non-consensual, forced physical sexual behavior such as rape, incest or sexual assault, or psychological forms of abuse, such as verbal sexual behavior or...

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Tawny26 10/09/2014

i have noticed after my sexual has taken place and its been a few years and have had some time to deal and process it and what not i still feel scared at the thought of sex. i tell people i don't like sex which seems to be correct for me but i don't know i haven't let myself be in a relationship since i was forced sexually and abused mentally. i guess i'm scared of getting hurt i'm not sure. i feel like sex is bad now i never really had although of thoughts about it before but now it makes me feel yuck and dirty,i have thought no sex is possbly the best route but guys want want what they want idk i feel what i want in a relationship will never be thanks to someone who fucked me up royaly.i just don't know if all these feelings are normal to feel gross. i feel attracted to guys but i try to let it die before it can get serious.or even has a chance to. i don't want to en up alone cause of this i want to be happy but i'm scared my desire for any sort of sexual activity is zero to none. i just to be reassured im not alone. and if i am thats ok too. sorry for the rambling .hope someone can help me make sence of this

bluedragon41 10/09/2014

No, there's a lot of abuse survivors who have problems having sex.

I will say you have a right to enjoy your own body and to share it with someone you want to share it with. The guy who hurt you should not be allowed to steal that happiness from you, you know?

But it is YOUR body, what you want to do with it is your business. Don't let anybody push you into something you don't really want!

LuckyEmpath 10/09/2014

As a result of the abuse I never have sex. I have what is called vaginismus (inability to be penetrated) so it has prevented me from having sex - even with my husband. But there are many ways to be intimate with someone without having sex. And there are ways to pleasure each other without having sex.

Sometimes having sex can be very triggering for people who were sexually abused and it takes time and healing in order to be able to enjoy it again. If you are not working with a therapist you may want to consider it so you can heal from what happened and move on to have a wonderful full happy life. The life you deserve to have.

Take care

grasshopper7 10/09/2014

I hate sex. I hate it because when I think about it I think about the way my uncle was molesting me when I was 6 yeas old. I have a problem with sex. I think of it as a beautiful thing. I see it rough and controlling. Wow! I can't believe I just revealed that.

grasshopper7 10/09/2014

I meant: I don't think sex is supposed to be beautiful thing.

xxmadxx 10/10/2014

I understand completely. I haven't had intimacy outside of the past when I was younger. I like men but I can't relate to them and I get nervous etc. Anyways I always feel dirty about sex except when I talk with a close friend. And he's the only one I can feel intimate towards. Anyways I just wanted to let you know your not alone.

Tawny26 10/13/2014

Thanks everyone i'm glad to know i'm not alone,thank you everyone :)

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