Sexless Marriage Community Group
This group is for those people who find themselves married to a partner who has little or no interest in having a sexual relationship. This can be very painful for the other partner and leave them feeling rejected, unloved and unwanted. This is a group to provide support for this very painful and very private issue.
Sexless relationship for years, unless I beg for it Whilst he lays there like a dead duck (pleasuring him and getting nothing in return) or I remind him how long it's been usually to the point I'm upset or angry or even just try talking to him after months of no initiation from him and then he'll decide to make a move, please him self and that's it. Porn addiction has been a major problem most of our relationship he says he's in recovery from porn and internet slut hunting me as far as I can see he's not been viewing it though I suspect he's found a way but tells me sex isn't important to him how can it not be important when he had such an issue with porn, it has to be me! Has anyone be n in this situation? And can it get better or am I flogging a dead horse? I've tried everything, role playing to HIS fantasies of prostitute's etc do I really have to be someone else to be wanted
My husband was raised Catholic and taught that sex is NOT for pleasure and u are not to even enjoy sex even in marriage. You are to have sex only for procreation.
Therefore, my husband's psyche was WARPED from day one... he feels guilty just doing it.
He became addicted to porn at age 12. His first marriage disolved bc of porn.
He no longer is involved in porn ... that I know of... I really don't care at this point.... but he does not want to be intimate. I stopped begging him 7 or 8 years ago. I now sleep in another room and we kiss and hug but no sex. It is OUT OF THE QUESTION>
I finally resolved in my mind and head that he could NOT do it. It is not in him. He is broken in this area... from religious bull shit abuse.
I love him. And i will probably never leave him. But I moved into another bedroom bc it was so painful and bought a vibrator. Sad. But very true.
Other than this... my husband is a wonderful man. He doesn't cheat on me. He provides. He goes to work. He isn't a drunk. He doesn't lie to me. He pays the bills. He's funny. He's good looking. He is a hard worker. He communicates well about important things. He takes good care of me. He listens to me if I really need him to. He is good to my family. He is patient....
There are a lot of things that he does RIGHT. He just doesn't care about being intimate physically. But in most other ways he is intimate.
Sometimes I miss it though.