Sexless Marriage Community Group

This group is for those people who find themselves married to a partner who has little or no interest in having a sexual relationship. This can be very painful for the other partner and leave them feeling rejected, unloved and unwanted. This is a group to provide support for this very painful and very private issue.

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Maybe time for another roll call?

veggiequeen
veggiequeen

I know there are some who were here long ago and occasionally show up... as well as some who just come when they don't know where else to turn.  I think some just get it all out  and don't bother to come back-- others check back but with no response in a short time they disappear too.  


Most of you who may still be around know I recently lost my husband, so technically am not in a sexless marriage anymore... but at this time still am sexless (except for damn toys. )  Much as I am getting the sex on the brain back, I am not planning on hopping from bed to bed.  Not who I am or want to be.  And even though it has been so very long, with all that has just happened, I need to get myself together first.   So I , for one am still here.   Is there anyone else out there yet???


Thanks for letting us know if you are. 


Kim

veggiequeen
veggiequeen
Hi and thank you. It's ok. Not exactly the way I planned things--- but I have gotten my freedom and a chance to move forward. Now I am trying to get things together and find that courage and confidence to move forward. (of course right now I can't do much anyway. I am still writing and using that vivid imagination. wink, wink. That is getting me by for now.) Eventually I do want to put up my profile on a dating site and hopefully find someone locally--- once we are out of exile.

I am guessing you have changed your profile name. (I think I may remember who you are. If so, we did have a great time with our writing ! wink, wink)

I hope things are better for you- although the fact you are here may not be a good sign. At any rate- welcome back.
The rate I am going I could be here til I die. (Very big frown.)
monumentguy
monumentguy
One of our stories took place in the vegetable garden with the neighbors watching from their bedroom and then getting it on themselves pressed up against their window. My fictitious life is great! The real one just lacks sex, but other than that it's good.
einsam
einsam
Hugs for your grieving. I know it takes a lot out of you.

I know I would be torn between extreme emotions. I often wish for my sexless marriage to end, but to end in death isn’t what I envision. It would bring a guilty relief. Like after my father hospiced and passed away, it’s a guilty relief.

I’ve been with my husband 28 years, married 26 years, sex began to decline about 2005, nonexistent since 2012-ish. Begging and marriage counseling did nothing.

He said what I/marriage counselor wanted to hear at the appointments, but nothing changed at home. The counselor would only see us as a couple, not individually.

After over three years of therapy, I quit going. The therapist repeatedly told him, “Touch your wife! Give her sex!“ but he didn’t even attempt our “homework assignments”, so it was time to just not waste time/money in therapy anymore.

He prefers porn over me, and there’s nothing I can do about it.

Thanks for letting me vent. I have told no one except my previous therapist about this. It is so freaking embarrassing.
veggiequeen
veggiequeen
@einsam welcome to our group. That is exactly what brought all of us here. Having noone to talk to and believing we struggle alone. This is far from the case. There have been many on here and all ages-- from 20s to 70s. I can't begin to tell you how much better it felt when I clicked and stumbled upon an actual group.... of more than just me. Here it is safe for us to vent, commiserate, fantasize and sometimes bitch like hell. LOL