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Sexual addiction, also sometimes called sexual compulsion, is a form of psychological addiction to sexual intercourse and other sexual behavior.

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jimpoe
jimpoe
Hello it's me again, It's been a while I've had a couple of relapses but all in all I've been doing fairly well still seeing the shrink and he says I'm making progress But now there's a new problem as I've said before i run my own business and a female employee has been making it quite clear she wants to have sex with me and she's turns almost any conversation with me sexual and two days ago she told me wanted to have oral sex with me. I guess the real problem is this female has two kids one 6 months and one 3 years old and i don't want to fire her and I've tried to ignore her and she's the type I'm attracted to (real trashy) and i want to do her but i know it ruin everything I've done so far. What should i do about her I'd feel bad about her kids if I fire her. I don't know.
ladymac82
ladymac82
oh ok it explains it, but Im like Tupac 'I don't want it if it's that easy'.
jimpoe
jimpoe
It's sad, but when you're male who's a sex addict "easy is what your looking for"and there's all to many people willing to indulge you.
Learningskills
Learningskills
Sure, easy would be the attraction wouldn't it. I often have to wonder about women like me, that simply because I'm a woman and for no other reason, those behaviors would always be available, yet, it hasn't been attractive to me. I have always considered it an insult if a man even suggested that he thought I might be interested...like that.
jimpoe
jimpoe
I hope i didn't insult anyone i was just giving a look into what it's like to be a male sex addict and that we look for certain traits or types in women but hey before i started therapy i had sunk to a new low i started having sex with transgendered people because even real women weren't easy enough i just thank God i enough presence of mind to wear condoms.
Learningskills
Learningskills
Oh, no jim....I mean in my real life. I've had guys outright proposition me on the job, definitely not a nightclub environment, absolutely professional. I asked them a question, what would ever induce you to think that I would cheat on my H. I'm married, you know that. So, are you suggesting that I'm untrustworthy, sneaky, a liar or what?
jimpoe
jimpoe
One of the things that i regret is that i did violate the sanctity of marriage i did have sex on numerous occasions with married and even engaged women i just didn't care it was all about feeding my need's i didn't think about their families and i guess neither did they. I've hurt so many people.
candycin
candycin
Jimpoe,

chances are those women were also sex addicts and you were used to fill their needs too. You seen each other as objects used to feed the addiction like a drug. Don't shame yourself with more guilt, staying sober is the road to redemption. Women that believe in the sacrament of marriage, that aren't sex addicts, wouldn't have been willing to have sex with you!!!