I'm sorry about your relationship ending. Did your partner leave bc of your addiction? Was your partner supportive before the split? I joined because I'm in a similar position - I feel like I'm going to lose my Ana because of my addiction.

Congrats on wanting to address this issue! It is called every man's battle for a reason. Have patience with yourself in dealing with this issue. You can conquer this. The key is to think about women and life in a whole different way. Pursue truly loving others instead of using others. It takes a mental refocus to say that I am going to look at women in a pure way. Women have so many dimensions to them. Learn to appreciate all of who God made them to be. Hopefully you can find a Celebrate Recovery group at a church close to you. They help you replace your thoughts with good thoughts and support you in prayer - which is so vital!
Prayers for your success!

@Goclean we split up due to the consequences of my porn addiction.

My ex didn't mind me watching normal and legal porn time to time. But she didn't know how bad my addiction got. It got progressively darker and that eventually ended the relationship. I should have had the courage to talk to her about It, but I was to ashamed and embarrassed to talk to anyone about it

@catch_the_music Thanks! I wish you the best as well

@bankai03

Would you share what you mean by consequences of porn addiction and what you meant by your addiction getting progressively darker ?

I feel like my pornography addiction has really affected my mental health, my wife's mental health, and our intimacy.. Not that that statement is a minor one. Those are big impacts.

But I ask because it seems like you are in a level that I might not be at but I might be headed to and I genuinely want to help you and myself.

Hi. My the consequences of my porn addiction seriously affected me and my ex mental health as well. I have a very low self esteem and always being afraid of failure. So as the relationship progressed I stopped being romantic and stopped complimenting and flirting with my ex and being very active and intimate. As a result we both felt unloved and unwanted. And I used porn as a coping mechanism. And since I was using porn as an escape instead of telling my ex about my addiction, our relationship suffered.

The porn addiction got darker due to me keeping to myself, sneaking out of bed, looking at it to the point I was losing tracks of time. It was all I was mostly thinking about, not life, not family, and not my ex. Porn had a hold on me, and I felt it wasn't going to ever let go. I felt so bad of letting it get so worse. I wasn't flirting and hitting on other women or physically cheating on my ex, but with porn I was. I was being very secretive with it. I just didn't know how bad it was until it was too late.