Sex / Pornography Addiction Support Group
Sexual addiction, also sometimes called sexual compulsion, is a form of psychological addiction to sexual intercourse and other sexual behavior.
I haven't been using a site like this but now think I should seek advice from others. I have been addicted to porn for over 25 years in one form or another. A year and half ago I thought this must end and I stopped cold turkey. It was very hard for the first month and a half but then the cravings went away and I have been able to avoid porn since then. The problem is I have not recovered my sexuality when it comes to others. No erections, can't perform. I have recently tried to start an intimate relationship with another person but because my junk doesn't work and they weren't into being a part of my recovery it has ended. I finally went to the MD and they say that everything is OK and that there is no physical reason that I can be sexual. So I looked up a Therapist and started talking to him about my problems. He brought to light that the last 5 years or so that I watched porn I never had an erection or orgasm from the porn. He says I was getting off on the endorphins that watching it released in my brain. He believes that the problem I have now is that sex is a complete mental experience for me and that I must find a way to awaken it again in my whole body. Of course he suggests that I work with a partner to reawaken my body but I don't have one. So I am searching for other methods of reawaking my body to being sexual. Any suggestions? Thanks for listening and any help is welcomed. Will
Second, I recommend getting yourself out of the situations that may cause relapses or cause memory and thoughts of porn to creep up. A man once told me, the way to guarantee that a man won’t sin is to take him out of the environment in which he will be tempted. Do something new. Something fun. Something different. For me, I got off social media entirely. Now I read books almost everyday. I try to stimulate my mind with good content rather than filth. I know that in order to fix my body, I first have to fix my mind. Otherwise it won’t ever matter if you can orgasm or get an erection or not.
Third, you have to be patient and know that there will be a light at the end of the tunnel. I had been addicted for probably a decade. It wasn’t until recently that I tried to fix things. Although I’ve had some relapses here and there, I have always learned more about myself and changed my strategies. As much as I want to have successful sex I know that I can’t rush it. If I want to have successful sex then I must fix my mind first. I think one of my problems was that I was so enamored with trying to have sex that I wanted to fix my body and not my mind. When I was able to have successful sex with my GF, I thought everything was fine and then reverted back to my old ways. I didn’t allow myself the time to recover both mentally and physically together. But it’s takes patience and time.
If you’re wanting to help yourself sexually, one thing I can recommend is strictly masterbate only to touch or pleasure yourself or if you’re with a partner pleasure yourself through sensuality. Our minds have been looking at explicit content that our bodies don’t think about feeling sex. Our bodies only want to do sex (if that makes sense). Next time when your with someone, try doing a massage, kissing, touching, and thing sensual. Let your body feel. Your mind may think that sex is what you see on the internet and it’s just not right. Take the time to feel sex. That would be a good way to get you awakened.
I recommend looking at the website yourbrainonporn if you haven’t already done so. There have been people who have taken awhile but their insight to how they did it was always good.
Just keep at it and don’t give up. Keep getting back up.