He needs a big wake up call, I had two chances and messed up both times.

Stand your ground and do it.

i'm going too.i'm done.

I agree, there are certain limits not to cross..like at least doing it behind close doors when you live with children around. did he want to get caught? it's to wonder.

He doesn't care if he gets caught.To him he has no problem and he says it's my fault.that's just a cop out.i am a small woman who weighs 100 pounds not an ounce of fat on me anywhere .even if there was.his addiction is in no way my fault.

Do you think your husband may have been thinking of your daughters friend? how old is your daughter/friend?

I don't think he is interested in my daughter's friend that way but with an addiction like he has I am not sure how far he would go.My daughter's friend is the same age as my daughter.I don't leave the girls alone with him.I can't risk someone getting hurt.I am taking every precaution I can to keep them safe while we're here.

Joy, you are doing the best thing to protect your daughter and her friends from your husband... I applaud you for this... you will reap the benefits some day... (((((((((((((((((Hugs)))))))))))))))))))

Leave him if you don't love him. But, if the only reason why you don't love him is his addiction then, you never really loved him at all. Unconditional love is the only love worth marrying for. If you love him, you'll stay and help him if he wants it. If he doesn't want help then, maybe you should accept him for his faults rather than crucify him. But, it seems like one of those faults might also be that he doesn't love you. I don't know. It's tricky when love is involved.

Wow! Thats low! I'd FREAK OUT!!!!!!! I'm so sorry. You need to give him the choice. If he picks porn than leave! He could get in a lot of trouble for that! Its considered neglect and if that little girl told her parents! Gosh. Is he crazy??? I would loose it! Your a strong woman not to have! Goodness! Just stand strong in your decision and know that you have a lot of people here that care for you and that are praying for you! I know that I am!

Let me just say this.I am not trying to crusify my husband as somone put it.The safety of my daughter and her friends are very important.I have talked to my husband and he refuses to get help.The only thing I can do is keep these girls safe.It is not a question of loving my husband anymore.He has just gone too far and needs to get help and until he does,I have to leave for the sake and safety of my daughter.

Joy, get out now! If he escalates his behavior any, it could put your daughter or her frineds in real danger. If he is so far into the porn that he'd do it regardless of who is around, then it's a very short step to the next level.
Get out, you and your daughter, now. Get away and let him decide what to do about himself. This has gone way beyond a simple addiction.

I am getting out.I have to think about what is best for my daughter and her friends.I agree with what you are saying which is why I made the choice to get out.At this point I think my husband is capible of doing anything.I don't want to be resposible for anyone getting hurt.

Joy I really think that this is a good idea! Its a serious illness that taints your brain. They are set on getting that high from what they do and that means even if its endangering someone else. (rape) I say get out! Just be careful!

I have to go to the housing office tomorrow so hopefully it's good news for me.I am thinking positively.

God Bless you and Keep you safe.