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Sexual addiction, also sometimes called sexual compulsion, is a form of psychological addiction to sexual intercourse and other sexual behavior.

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JP_Cross 08/14/2020

This is my first time doing something like this but here goes. I have a problem. I'm a 24yo male and in my teens and early 20s I watched a lot of porn and as it continued I got into weirder stuff and even got into messaging strangers online and sexting and exchanging pictures. The worst part is for the last year and a half I've had a girlfriend who is now my fiancé but I kept doing it. She recently found out about it and I am determined to quit. I haven't done anything since she found out, but I've tried to quit before and have fallen back into it. I need help and advice on what to do next to avoid going back.

matthew9876 08/14/2020

Hi, good job taking a first step! I'm 48 and still struggling to be completely free so I can't give you "the answer" but just what I'm trying lately. (BTW I want to affirm your decision to marry.. I would do that if I had a chance to re-do life) I think I would say to my 24 year old self: "Take it seriously, it's not going to go away and it will mess up your life. Lately I've been thinking that for some of us we need to learn to live without sex (mentally and physically) Maybe it's like the alcoholic who shouldn't even get near the stuff. Maybe there needs to be a 90 day detox where you re-train your conditioned system for a new normal. I've been through this process quitting caffeine and they say this addictiion is MUCH stronger." Well, anyways, that's what I'm trying lately and if you're interested in my journey, please check out my journals. Blessings to you. (day 6 of detox for me..)

JP_Cross 08/14/2020

Thanks, I really appreciate the advice. I’ll try just doing a complete detox for a while and see where that leaves me for a little while. I like the idea of doing the journal too and just keeping yourself accountable.

MemphisWH 08/14/2020

hello and welcome,
I agree you should do a 90 nofap, sex messes with the brain. Sex messes with emotions.
you need to detox, the addict will destroy your soul, your spirit your sex, your love, your Intimacy .
I would suggest that you find a local SA group that you can attend.
You will have to learn how to be open and honest, no lie to yourself, to God, or to others.
you need to learn why you need porn, why you need to masturbate, why you need to act out. What could you be doing instead, what should you be doing?
Can you actually sit alone and listen to yourself and and breathe and relax without turning to porn or acting out.
Can you pray instead of acting out?

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