Sex / Pornography Addiction Support Group

Sexual addiction, also sometimes called sexual compulsion, is a form of psychological addiction to sexual intercourse and other sexual behavior.

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lulu137 07/18/2015

I can be super tired like I just need to sleep, but as soon as I lay down I get so antsy and anxious if I don't have sex. All I wanna do is text someone and get it but I know I can't. But I can not rest and NOTHING helps. I just feel like pacing to keep me from feeling like I'm going to explode. Usually around 1 I can calm down enough to sleep but now it's almost 4 am and I literally feel like crying. Does anyone get a feeling like this?

wolfiepa 07/18/2015

Lulu,

It sounds like you may have an addiction judging by the compulsion and the anxiety symptoms you describe, if that is the case, then a recovery program may be in order, so that you can learn to live a healthy life addiction free. It can be a 12 step program or Recovery Nation which is online and free. But to be sure google: am I a sex addict? and it will lead you to a site where you can take an online test

But for now, what is happening is that since you are no longer providing your body with what it had gotten used to, it is rebelling. What you are experiencing are withdrawal symptoms, and they will subside in time. That is why a recovery program is so crucial so that you learn how to address these symptoms in a healthy way.

When I could not sleep, I read, I did chores, I kept myself busy even as my body demanded to be satisfied. I learned that sex was not a need but an option, that nothing would happen to me if I did not give in. In fact, giving in was actually worse than not indulging. In time, it went away.

Doing absolutely nothing was better than actually giving in. Every time, I did not give in, I rewarded myself with a dollar which at the end of the recovery period gave me enough money to reward myself with a gift.

Hope this helps,
Wolf

wvguy 07/23/2015

Thanks for being so open. I'm not sure my views would be accepted here as I think the right couple can enjoy sex and porn together. This is leading up to what guys do in your situation. We masturbate. The release, as all women know, it that an orgasm helps us sleep. Do you find this is something you can't do? I'm trying to pinpoint what it is you need exactly.

pobevin 07/24/2015

I had this same problem. I would take and Advil PM medication for about a week to get me through the rough spots. My brain was like a sex slideshow and I could not it to stop. This will go away.

strwberryginger 07/25/2015

This is completely for me personally but I was in the same boat and I started working out to get healthy and I notice the days I really do a good workout are days I don't struggle as much with sleep or wanting sex before sleep. I was married for 11 years and we had a very active sex life for most of it so I was so "conditioned" to having that or self pleasuring every night before bed and it was a HUGE HUGE adjustment after the separation, I tried pills ( z-quil, melatonin, a few other ones), reading, etc... and nothing seemed to help expect the working out.

Hope maybe it will help!! Good luck finding your solution hun!

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