Decided to test the waters with another dating site. Because I have some extra pounds and am tired of coming across some who only see those who are thin and gorgeous (and young) as worthwhile, I joined one for BBWs. I noticed one or two that caught my eye . One of them did surprise me and messaged and we started to chat. We went back and forth throughout the day.

When I got home  it continued . I should have known when he asked   if I could be submissive. and I said yes. Next thing he wants me to text him. Things did very quickly revert to sex. I asked if he'd like to talk on the phone (actually was thinking we would talk and get to know more about each other, but his focus was still just on sex.) Just like the playbook.... when I asked if he just wanted fwbs or a booty call, he said he'd like to maybe date as well.  His theory seems to be to first see if both are compatible (sexually, same wants, desires) rather than waste time. That explained why he went directly to the "sex survey". lol   We left it that I would think about it and text him later to let him know if I wanted to get together (in the next day or two)

I did go back and forth about it, but in the end decided to give him a pass. As much as I miss sex , I now realize I need to stop and think and be careful. I also realize that while I may want to try new things, I would like a variety... not just the same old thing (whether I like it or not)  I remember a long while back I asked what was your sexual preference (thinking all had just one choice)  I was pleasantly surprised by one man on here in particular who said it depended on his mood. Said it could go from taking her bent over the table or chair, to soft tender lovemaking, to some playful mutual masturbation. I could handle quite the spectrum I do think, but one thing I have learned is if I am to have this, it will be in the right order. This same man did also remind me to think enough of myself and my worth and wait for one who appreciates and wants me (as I do him)  

YM I say thank you so much and I do hope you know if you were closeby I would be closing in to claim you for myself. (I say that with a very big grin and a playful wink) I do hope you have found a special lady for yourself.   :)

PS. Had another request to meet another man who did seem very nice (and handsome) and was excited.... til I saw he is in Nevada.  (Why is it I am drawn to those too far away (and PA only seems to have perves and schmucks????  LOL)

Yes I hear you all laughing as I seem to be one of the biggest perves around. I was told I was a hot ticket waiting to happen and I do believe that is true. But I would be content being one's very special "hot ticket".... not the spicy senorita of the whole town. lol