Hi Veggiequeen,
My heart goes out to you. Even if I could turn the clock back at least 10 years, parcel myself up and arrive on your doorstep I doubt whether I would fulfil your desires but the thought of it excites me.
I see from some of your other posts that you sometimes feel disappointed by the lack of response to your efforts to sparkle things up for us. I have noticed on some web sites other than DS, where the number of views is recorded, it often happens that posts viewed hundreds of times have few or no replies. So your writings might be helping to create all kinds of excitement for many people without anyone telling you.
I do hope the right guy arrives for you soon. Barry.

Thanks Barry. I learned early on how people judge us by a quick glance. Even when they get to know us, they still joke and poke fun behind our backs. Those perfect, pretty people intimidate the hell out of me.

I learned to look past the little imperfections. Give me a caring soul with a sexy grin and evil twinkle in his eyes. (That in itself turns me on.) Don't need six pack abs or a thick long dick . Someone recently pointed out to me.... it is not so much WHAT you have , but rather how you USE it.. (I do need a sexy ass to smack and grab onto though. -- wink, wink)

I have seen and felt looks of disappointment. I would never do that to another. I can always find something about everyone that is a definite plus.

Hi veggiequeen,
I think you must be a very kind, caring lady to look for a good side in everyone. I try but find it difficult with some people. I don't take any notice of what people might be saying behind my back. But there are many kind, thoughtful people as well.
I feel that one of the benefits of the Internet and sites such as this one is that we feel free to open up about our personal preferences and attitudes and compare with each other. Your preferences fascinate and reassure me.

Thanks. And you are definitely right about being easier here to open up.

My fear is that when out in the real world, I may retreat back to not being as outspoken as I would like.

Coming from dysfunction, I base my opinion of myself on what others think. Hard habit to break

I do hope you will be able to get away from taking it badly if anyone thinks or says anything against you. Clearly you have some admirable qualities which others will appreciate. You have already expressed some of your preferences which have taught me more about women. I thank you for that.

For example, it's interesting to read that you like male bums. I had the (seemingly wrong) impression that it is nearly always men admiring women. Your bum-slapping idea looks nice. If the Internet represents male preferences, it looks like there are men who prefer ladies bums of almost any age, shape and size from sleek young ones to chubby, cellulite cheeks of the very mature. It's so pleasing to see all women being admired rather than only the young and slim.

It's interesting to read that you do not need a long thick dick to satisfy you. I have heard other ladies say that size is not particularly important; meanwhile there are quite a lot of men on this and other sites who seem to be proud of their generous dimensions. There are many advertisements for developing potions and methods to the effect that less than 7 inches is inadequate - a length which I don't think most men can achieve, unless they measure along the underside, but which doesn't sound unachievable to those that the sales are aimed at.

I too do not often speak so openly face-to-face but it's useful to know that there are people who will open up about their preferences and reassuring to feel that our own habits are not so odd after all.

That has helped me as well. After chatting with so many (men and women ) I now have a better idea of how people think. For me it was very encouraging to hear that not all men want a 23 year old with big boobs a curvy ass , tiny little waist and legs up to there... (yeah, ok, most still do …. deep down. lol) But the fact is that others also see beyond the initial attraction... can be drawn to personality, confidence and a wild zest for life (which, after being stifled for so long does take off with leaps and bounds.)

Finding out that some men find a mature sexy woman (with a few extra hips and curves) and desire and passion and the ability and willingness to use that to romance and be seduced a definite turn on does still give me hope ( and get me excited. haha)

As well as allowing us to be relatively anonymous, the Internet brings together like-minded people. I think I could open up face-to-face if I could be sure that what I say would be well-received. I have had encounters with both men and women, mostly in men's rooms at swimming pools or in mixed saunas. I think I mentioned these in one of your journals when you set up this group. These were as much physical as they were exchanges of thoughts and feelings. My fear in talking openly is that I might offend or embarrass someone. The men's rooms and saunas felt safe because a woman could not complain about seeing a naked man in the men's room. Presumably that is what she was there for .... and if she made eye contact or showed interest ...

The ladies involved were mature, of similar age to me. I imagine they accept that handsome young men are not likely to rush at them just as I do not delude myself that 23 year old pin-ups will head for me. In any case, a kind, thoughtful, friendly personality is more important to me than shape. Mature ladies with figures far from those usually seen in men's magazines look very beautiful to me when accompanied by a nice, warm-hearted personality, sensibility and understanding that often comes with experience.

I feel like you do veggiequeen. Where is he?????