Even if my guy was not an SO, I would do some things alone or with friends.. I also don’t share personal details with too many people - it’s not their business. If someone is not part of my team (people who support me), I keep things superficial. If someone wants to know his crime, I say it’s his story to tell - ask him. Blessings to you!

Thank you.

Cold pizza, As you are trying to come to terms with what happened, please seek professional help for yourself ... ask your higher power, God, for Devine direction. This is such a delicate matter... I admire your strength in supporting your partner. I pray that this will be a great learning experience of love and forgiveness...I pray for his step-daughter as well. I pray for you all... I pray for us as we try to cope and learn on this journey.. God bless.

That’s how I am. I support who my husband is as a person now but not the crime he committed. I knew what he had been in prison for but when I asked for the nitty gritty stuff it took two big conversations to get a lot of answers from him. He obviously was so ashamed from his past.

I'm not sure why my original post was deleted but here I am, less than 24 hours of finding out he is facing 125 years. Oregon has measure 11 so anything that falls under it has severe sentences without any chance of good time/ behavior. They want to make an example of him, I get it, but he doesn't deserve to spend the rest of his life behind bars! I'm so lost, I feel numb. I feel I have no one to talk to, no one to turn to.

Thank you Charlin. I am definitely trying so hard to stay safe, to not overthink. To trust that things happen for reasons unknown... farmers wife- it helps to know my mindset is shared and not individual. I hope I will get to move forward with him in the future but the future just looks so bleak now