Sex Offenders Wife Community Group
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Hello everyone, I'm new to this but very much relived that I found this. I've been with my boyfriend for 1 yr. He was on house arrest for about 4 months after we met. His PO was very cool with him about going to places. We would bring our kids together and everything was perfect until the day they took off his ankle bracelet. He couldn' be around my son or his not even his family. We couldn't go to church and he had to stop playing baseball. He just started treatment. I guess my question is does it get any easier? We want a future together and want kids together. We have so many goals. I just want to know if it gets any better?
Yes, it gets MUCH easier after an offender completes his probation or parole. You have to remember that being on probation means that the offender has not completed his court mandated sentence and is still in the custody of the DOC if he was prosecuted by the state. As a result, being on probation is often referred to “being in prison without the razor wire.”
Since he is still under the custody of the state with a probation officer, he has certain probation restrictions he must follow. Once off probation, all the probation restrictions or conditions----polygraphs, curfews, not being allowed to live with minor children, etc.----will stop and he will only follow the rules of the sex offender registry, which are much less restrictive. So just hang on. Once probation is over, you will see a huge difference in what he can and cannot do.
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Regarding sex offenders and children----in the beginning POs do not usually allow sex offenders on probation to be around minor children. Sometimes they will make an exception if the child is the biological child of the offender, but often they will not.
After being on probation for a certain period of time, most POs will allow an offender to be around minor children with certain stipulations as you have explained,
Once probation is completed, a sex offender can live with minor children and he will be under no criminal liability. Registration laws do not usually prevent sex offenders from living with children, nor can registration laws prevent a registrant from fathering a child. A couple of states have laws which forbid sex offenders from living with minors, but they make an exception if the offender is the father, the step-father, or the grandparent of the child.
Now, regardless of whether an offender is on probation or only on the sex offender registry, if someone files a report to CPS that a child is living in the same household as a RSO, CPS will most likely launch an investigation. The offender would be on solid legal ground, but he could be civilly liable and forced to leave the home IF CPS can prove that the offender is a danger to the child. Many CPS investigations do not go too far if the offender is off probation and only on the registry, but be prepared for an investigation.
If the wife or GF of the offender has a child from a previous relationship living with them, often the biological father of the child will raise hell with CPS and an investigation will begin.
Having said all that, if the child is the victim of the offender’s crime, all bets are off and the offender will never be allowed to live with his victim until the victim reaches the age of 18.
The issue of being around minor children is complicated and includes several scenarios, so I think I included every possible situation in my answer. But it is an issue that comes up often, so I thought it needed to be addressed.
If you have any questions, message me.
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PS And all you mothers, wives, and GFs, you have my deepest admiration for sticking with your man. You have more courage in your pinky finger than most folks in their entire body. Hang in there, it is much better after probation.