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Unhappy in my marriage but too scared to leave

Nicole1996
Nicole1996

My husband and I have been married for almost 3 years. He treats me like a roommate, I can't even tell you the last time he hugged or kissed me on his own. Probably 3 years ago. He's always on his phone and barley talks to me. I have to start every conversation and even then his head is still in his phone and I get 1 word replies. I'm not happy with him and think about leaving everyday but I know if I leave I'll be living with my parents again on a very small island with no potential relationships in the future. In my head it's either have the nice house, babies, pets but a shitty husband or be single and alone for years. 

GirlinCalif
GirlinCalif
Of course you would meet someone else. If you went back to a small island, you can meet someone on a dating app in another area and then you could move to the new guy. There are literally billions of men out there in this world. How did you meet your husband?

You don't have to settle for this kind of life. Ask yourself - Is this the kind of husband I always dreamed of having? Am I happy with how he treats me, am I generally happy most days? Does he treat me the way I want to be treated? Do I look forward to a future with him, and I feel happiness and excitement at the thought of us being together for the rest of our lives?

Some questions to ask yourself. Sounds like he has "checked out" of this marriage and things will not magically get any better. Have you talked to him about all of this? Does he show interest in changing his behavior?

You can't change another person. He has to want to change himself.

What is he doing on his phone all the time, is he chatting with other women, by chance?

You don't have to settle for this. This is your life. You deserve the kind of partner that you want to grow old with.
seperateddad2021
seperateddad2021
Have you tried to communicate with him. Tell him how you feel about current situation? Unfortunately it was too late for me in regards to being more attentive to my soon to be ex wife. She cheated on me to prove a point to herself that she no longer was in love with me. I am a firm believer in honesty and communication in a marriage. If communication fails then you have to consider other options. Be honest with your feelings and make him aware your marriage is in trouble
Good luck
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