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middleman101
middleman101

Well here I am happy for the first time in my life and not knowing what to do next? Between being sexually abused as a child and being raised by an excessivly narcissistic parent, both led to me being excessively anxious and nervous 24/7 pretty much and ended up in a seemingly wasted life. Now all is well....everybody forgiven  and my anxiety more manageable. So I'm happy. But now, how do I make the most of this freedom at my age as a senior? Luckily I don't feel old and I'm starting to learn that I enjoy reading and the internet for the most part. I'd love to meet people and have some meaningful relationships. This figuring out "WHO am I " will take some time, a year or to. But that is a lot of time at my age(61). I'm afraid of being a waste of a person, though I know I'm not and all of what happenned ,mentionned above was not of my consent. So what do I do next? I'm looking for the express route when it seems I'll have to take the milk run and it is driving me mad at times. At least my life is mine. That is a true blessing, and I'm not a waste of a person. That too is a good thing. Especially the latter now. I'm open to suggestions. Thanks for reading. :)

mega54
mega54
I wish you all the luck in the world figuring out who you are. I feel like I have spent decades trying to go that or maybe it was who I want to be I was trying to figure out. I will send you a friend request because You sound like you would be a good one.
middleman101
middleman101
Thank you all for your great responses. It seems like old age has lots to teach us. One thing is that my retina ,the part involved in enabling to see small details has degenerated a fair bit. So I,m on oral medication and I'm going to the ophtomology out patient clinic to get other meds by means of an eye injection with a needle. So I was thinking last night: I can actually tell annoying people to stick a needle in their eye and really mean it when I suggest it may help them see things in a better way. I just have to be who I am. I like that now. Be greatful for a comfy apartment and food to eat and the rest is pretty much secondary. But I don't feel old either at sixty two,. Just got to have fun.
kann
kann
I was the person who kindly 'observed' the elderly or old people whatever label we use for them, and in my heart would ask god to bless them or whatever kindness I could draw upon. Whether a good thought, kind word or smile and that just made me feel so good. Then one day as I happened to be doing this, I had this stunning realization 'I am one of them', I could not help but laugh at myself because here I am in my 70’s not realizing I am old. We don't know how we should feel when we are old because we have never been old before. Too simple of a thought? Maybe. Middleman101, you are still young. Don't waste what time you have worrying about something you have no control over, otherwise in a blink of an eye you may lookup and realize 'you are one of those old people'. Please dear friends I am not at all insinuating someone is old because they are in their seventies, I am saying I am.
middleman101
middleman101
Thank you kann.
Racheledwards123
Racheledwards123
I wish you all the best to live happy and to find ways to be happy.
middleman101
middleman101
Thank you everybody. And, Rachel. Though you are in your seventies it is important to realise that there are three ways to measure age: chronologically, physically, and cognitively and emotionally. And just because one is in their seventies chronologically does not mean they have to be the same age physically and cognitively. It is often the case that people have three differrent ages and that is often fun to see. So look at all three ages before calling yourself old. Don't let the chronological age dominate. Let's just be ourselves and show the youth that old ROCKS!