Ghostdancer I do qualify based on age. More importantly I am here to listen and offer advice. I have seen posters at the local senior center indicating this as a problem but never heard of any examples. Glad you are capable enough to find this site. Should you feel need to talk to someone who will listen, please send me a mail message.

Thank you both DJ and Simpsons for both views and I know mine is a minor case. I wish all abuse and bullying could end and we could do like the song says and come on people we got to love one another right now. It’s ok and always has been alright to feel and say it’s ok. Thank you.

I know how it feels to be isolated. I’m 64 and the sole caretaker for my dad who’s 98 since 2016. The only people I see is a aid 3 times a week who cleans dad, she takes about 30 minutes or less and his nurse once a week. It’s just dad and I. I worry once he’s gone what is to become of me.

Hi Sagacioussusan, What a wonderful daughter to lovingly take care of your Dad. Perhaps a senior volunteer would come in and let you get out for a walk in the park or lunch with a friend. It would do you a world of good. i guess You do have to think ahead. I wish you well.

I will be 85 years old in August.

I have 3 adult sons (and a daughter I have not heard from for 25 years). I see ONE of my sons quite often but the other two rarely. One is a widower and has adjustments of his own to make. He presently has a "girl friend" who is much younger than he. He is on an ego trip.

Yes, I do feel "abused". I have done nothing to deserve this kind of treatment. I feel that the two sons are just sitting around waiting for me to die so they can spend my money!

Thanks for listening.

KK

As I see by the replies this is a very real problem happening across a broad spectrum of our society. We seemed to have lost so much connection to each other in our mad dash to the future. I can’t judge or suggest an alternative to current lifestyles but that seems to be at the core of our problems that yield a phrase such as elder abuse. Definitely a pairing of two words that should never have met, did the problem not exist until recently? It would seem so, within the last generation or two possibly. Of course that would also mean that we are from the generations that are at the beginnings of the phenomenon. With that in mind we should be able to fix the problem before even more families are hurt by being victims as well. Now the big picture stands out and I see no winners, all are victims, from the abused to the abusers. Perhaps we need to hearkenback to a past time when larger family groups all lived together meaning at least three generations mixing in the arrangement. Difficult the problem is; and that’s my Yoda-speak for today. Blessings all.

Hey Dancer, if it occurred in earlier generations, I'd guess it did sometimes but was well concealed. As the entitled generations keep coming, there will be more of it. 'Nough said. Hugs to all.